Jealousy, and divorce, ever... they come all at once...

At this stage the important question is not only do we still love each other? The question must be... Are we able to adapt and understand each other in this new stage of the relationship?

For years a couple learns to function in a certain way. They know the rhythms, the codes, the needs. And suddenly one of the two people begins to change inside and out. Change the body, change the energy, change the desire, change the patience, change even the way she sees herself.

And when no one understands very well what is happening, it is very easy to confuse transformation with heartbreak. How wrong it is to assume postures and lose the ability to communicate without understanding oneself and less being able to understand the other...

Dangerous phrases can start there, like...

“You're not the same anymore,” “you don't love me anymore,” “everything bothers you,” “you don't understand me.” But many times under those phrases there are two disoriented people, with the female menopause or perhaps with the male andropause that with jealousy and with divorce included, it seems to me a much deeper issue than its name suggests, because it does not only talk about couples who separate during this stage of natural deficiency of our human hormones., and of what can happen when a relationship reaches a stage that no one prepared it for by trying to interpret a completely new stage with old tools. That's why I think that jealousy and divorce at this stage of the human autumn, we should not look at it only as a couple crisis, because it can also be a translation crisis in the couple, where each one is feeling something different, but neither knows how to explain it to the other.

Sometimes, love is looking at each other again with different eyes, understanding each other and falling in love again with this new version of the other. And the issue of not communicating and seeking professional help with a good hormone replacement therapy, which relieves the symptoms for both men and women, increases the desire to be intimate with each other and empowers us all... Have you ever heard about jealousy and divorce at this stage, because of the absence of hormones?

Without a doubt, this is a stage in which we stop putting up with many things about each other that we used to overlook. Because the drop in estrogen in women and progesterone in men, is strong, to the point that insomnia affects our nerves, and many of us are infieles... Is a combination that is neither honest nor loyal to the other.

Share this reflection with that couple that you know is confused in relation to the transformations after menopause or andropause, in humans.

Happy Day! ... Janitze. 🌹