Maybe we can't change what happens...

But we can plant something different. What if the injustices that outrage us today were also showing us what we need to change?

For example, and it has happened to me when a friend betrays us, and we do not receive the recognition we deserve, we are denied an opportunity or we see that those who do harm seem to get away with it, it is inevitable to ask ourselves: where is justice?... Oh, my God... because life is not always fair and justice can take time and we don't always see the consequences of our actions. But there is something that is in our hands: to decide what we do with what outrages and disgusts us from those... False and treacherous friends...

We are living in times of political and social upheaval, and also, I like to think that chaos also exposes what no longer works, what we can no longer tolerate and what we need to build in another way. Because getting outraged can be the beginning, but it's not enough... At least, for me it's not.

If we reject corruption, let us build integrity. If indifference hurts us, let's practice empathy in presence and not in absence. If we don't want to keep repeating the same stories, let's dare to do things differently. In the face of every injustice, there is a self-question: what can I do so that what I reject stops repeating itself?

Because there are moments in life that break us in two and we will never be the person we were before we lived them, this happens when something that we believed deeply true for some circumstance stopped being true. I think few things confront us as much as discovering that we were looking at our own life from the wrong perspective.

That there were signs that we did not know how to interpret, truths that we did not want to recognize or people to whom we attributed qualities that perhaps they never had, and guilt appears: how was it that I didn't realize?

Today, I want to say something,... we cannot demand from the person we were yesterday the understanding we have today... It is very easy to look back with the information we now know and judge our decisions, our hopes and even our naivety.

The difficult thing is to have enough compassion to recognize that, at that moment, we were doing what we could with what we knew, with what we felt and with what we needed to believe.
That's why there are experiences that change us so much. Because they not only change what we think about others, but also what we understand about ourselves.

They force us to review our expectations, our limits, our needs and even the reasons why we did things that we don't understand today. Over the years I have learned that all painful experiences give us the possibility to become better people. As long as we do the work with those experiences that we live.

It is one thing for life to hurt us and quite another is what we decide to learn from that pain. I am convinced that one of the most profound ways to grow is to allow an experience to change the way we look at the world, without letting it take away our ability to trust, to love and to start over.

Janitze 🦋