When anger drives you, it's sure to create chaos. For things that you desire, you gotta wait patiently, not create problems before hitting the timeout. It's always how you think things are going to take place. Sometimes, they just take a unique turn to make things different. If you take it like that, it didn't meet your assumption, so you gonna create chaos, which is nothing but foolishness.
So what I had done is, planned a few surprises, like at the end of the day, evening, and dinner plans. So whatever the person was like, she was fueling, getting annoyed over little things, thinking I hadn't planned anything, as I didn't disclose or give anything. I was normal, so it made it more realistic, but at the end of the day, it backfired pretty badly, and I was the sufferer.
Even before the evening, things got so heated up that I had no choice but to try to make things calmer. But you know what, when people get mad at something, bring in ego, burst out limitless, no matter what you do, you will always end up on the sufferer side.
So what happened at the end, can you guess? Things escalated so badly that everything was wasted, no surprise, no dinner, no outing in the evening, just chaos and heated conversation.
There are many in-between stories, but what would have happened if things had been taken lightly? There could have been a memorable evening, a memorable dinner, nightlife in Dhaka, and many more. All could have happened only if handled patiently, at least not to rush, but rather see what's there till the end. Nope, we want everything as we assume; if not, let the chaos begin.
Being short-tempered is a serious illness; it only hampers stuff, doesn’t bring any value at all to anything. Never ever!
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No matter how much you do for people, there will always be a lack, they take things for granted and act as if it should be the way they want, no matter what. They won't consider the other people, their situation, and so on. Only what they care about is their self-interests.
Recently, one of my relatives' friends came to Dhaka for treatment. We had no place to stay, so we offered to stay at our place for the night. Well, it came from that side if we could manage the night, so we did. Now, when the doctor saw the reports, written a few more tests for the day after tomorrow and the results will be coming out the next day.
Now you tell me, is it possible to keep a guest for such a long time? Because we are living in a studio flat, a proper bedroom and a dining space which isn’t suitable for staying still, I have adjusted, and both of us are busy with our jobs and uni. So we're gonna look after a guest for 3 more days?
We politely refused the relative that it isn't possible, as we had to adjust a lot, a bed one-bedroom flat, so there are tons of stuff to consider. And there were weekends, so we would be at home and need rest, so no way it was not possible.
I know it was saddening, maybe we could have offered a place, but it wasn’t really possible for us. That relative got mad at us, like Why couldn’t we adjust a little more? Why didn't we let that person stay longer? Got extremely offended at us extremely, no way they will listen to or understand our situation. Felt like we did a serious offence. We then offered to adjust, but ego came in between and burst out even more. Well, nothing to do, even if we had made a mistake by not agreeing on accepting three more days later, we did accept but yet, but it wasn't helpful.
So with the view to helping someone, it kinda backfired pretty badly. This is why people don't take the step to help someone, because one might not be enough, people could be expecting you to take steps for miles without even thinking on your side.
Some bad experiences teach us the variation of thoughts and choices that we also must need to be cautious of how weird we humans are.
