Affective responsibility...

Love will always be a negotiation with effort,

For which it does not matter in addition to being flexible, negotiating and often giving in...

Although relationships are so complicated these days, because of both ego and narcissism, I still believe and bet on him. Not all of us are ready for that. Many include me, we have many times preferred perfection and an illusion.

That feeling of illusion is always present at the beginning of the relationship, and then with maturity the relationship gets stronger, and it's not that the illusion is lost, it's that love transforms into something else, in the sense that it becomes more real, it often goes through storms, goes through difficulties, which does not mean that it is not love, simply life is imposing challenges, challenges to the couple.

Solitude, by choice, is wonderful...

Besides, love is not an act for arrogant people, because arrogance destroys love. Of course there are people who prefer to negotiate with themselves and enjoy singleness, but while that happens I always say that singleness, loneliness, chosen is honest, of a lot of self-worth, because it is the best opportunity to grow inward, to get to know each other and establish what we really want for our life.

The fairy godmother story does not exist...

Many are not prepared to face that great reality, without a doubt, building a relationship involves committing to everything... I have a vast experience of this, after 47 years with the same partner, haha. And if one is not willing to do so, it is better to pass by and not join anyone, because of the affective responsibility.

The road, in my case, is long but, it is worth traveling it with him.

Many times I have had to negotiate with my husband, with whom I have and also give in. Every day is the best possible day to establish agreements with my husband, understanding that love imposes commitments. Just like this beautiful yellow flower in my garden, blooming this day

And if we want to be loved and love, we have to say "I'm going to love you, I'm going to get into this situation with you, to commit myself to this that we are choosing for our lives, and I'm going to assume this reality"

It is my way of doing, and making adult, mature decisions, so as not to become like a weather vane to the wind.

I am one of those who thinks that a love full of dramas, jealousy, insecurities ends up undermining that beautiful thing that united us, and makes the relationship an endless storm, reaches fatigue, besides that sooner or later it ends, because of the excess of selfishness that does not seek the happiness of one of the parties, makes love to escape, and the relationship is lost.

I still believe in love, even if I have made bad decisions in the past, this does not mean that I cannot make a good and wise decision in the present with emotionally healthy people. Are you willing to take this step, to take on this challenge?. Reply me in the comments.

Janitze.