Having faced a lot of dissappointing situations in my life, I can boldly say it that disappointments are a part of life and are experienced by everyone. It is like one of the rules that binds life and living; things won't always work out your way or go as you have planned it is definitely not abnormal, it is just part of life and existence.
Experiencing dissappointing situations isn't abnormal or unheard of or dangerous but dwelling on this situations without making tangible progress is what is dangerous and discouraged.
When something bad or unwanted happens to you, chances are that you want to withdraw totally from that space or experience. You want to do something to help you forget the hurt or see if you can turn back the hands of time. But often times than not, this can't be achieved.
What then can you do when faced with disappointments?
First you need to avoid getting into a terrible state because you're sad. This will only add to your worries and negative mood. You need to learn how to deal with that disappointment in a healthier and more beneficial way then it can be less painful and it can be converted to a learning experience for further personal growth.
I’d like to share a few steps that have helped me personally when faced with dissappointing situations in this post
First, you need to accept without denial, how you really feel.
Yes you're hurts, that’s not a terrible thing infact that's OK.
Don’t try to deny it, hide it under a big smile or push it away. Accept it because then it will go away quicker and in the long run be less painful to process what has happened.
If you try to deny disappointments, it will later pop up at unexpected times. Then making you moody, pessimistic orv
aggressive.
Don't zero yourself as a disappointment.
Just because you failed or fell victim to something negative does not mean you are a disappointment or failure.
learn from it
This is very much important. Learning from your mistakes or from a failure or failed circumstance will not only help you heal or get over the hurt but rather it will give you something to be grateful for fr the situation and a lesson to help you avoid such situations or what you can do to avoid being down when faced with similar circumstances.
Talk to friends.
Getting others perspective on what happened is essential for your healing and for dealing with disappointment.
By letting it all out and venting to your friend or sister you can release that inner pressure and pain you feel, sort things out for yourself, get better ideas or advice.
and accept what has happened instead of trying to ignore it.
Getting over dissappointing situations can help you build your damaged self esteem . Always remember that whenever you get disappointed, it is part of life and it is not the end of the world. You will arise and come out stronger from this if you're determined and willing to try.
