Feeling disappointed. Teach your heart to accept disappointment even from the people you love.

Firstly, the world is not a place of maximum joy, happiness and fulfillment.
As you are living life, always remember that

the most painful disappointments don't come from strangers.

This period have taught me so much.
They come from the people you would swear would never hurt you.

It maybe:
Your best friend.
Your brother.
Your sister.
Your mother.
The person you love.

Strangers can hurt you, and you will move on quickly because you didn't expect anything from them anyway.

But when someone you love disappoints you, it hits different.
It doesn't just break your heart, it confuses your heart.
Because you keep asking how could you do this to me

I have learned one hard lesson in life which is to teach your heart to accept disappointment, even from the people you love.

Not because you are weak.
Not because you are foolish.
But because you want peace.

Here is the truth nobody tells us:

• Love does not cancel human imperfection.
  The fact that someone loves you does not mean they will not fail you.
  They are still human.
  They still have fear, selfishness, ignorance, and bad days.
  Even good people can make selfish decisions.
  If you expect perfection from love, you will live in constant pain.

• The closer they are, the more it will hurt and that's normal.
  We expect more from those close to us. So when they disappoint us, the wound is deeper.
  Accept that and don't pretend it doesn't hurt.
  But also don't let that pain turn you into a bitter person who trusts nobody.

• Acceptance is not approval.
  Accepting that your loved one disappointed you does not mean you are saying what they did was okay.
  It means you are saying I see what you did. It hurt me but I will not carry this hurt for the rest of my life.
  I will not let your action poison my heart.

Some of us are still angry at something our father did in 2019.
Something our friend did two years ago.
We are still carrying it.
Who is suffering it? Seriously it's not them but you.

• Stop writing permanent judgments on temporary failures.
  Someone disappointed you once, and you have already concluded that he is a wicked person.
  She has always been fake without verifying whether it is true.
  We shouldn't judge someone's whole character by one bad chapter?

People who loved you can still disappoint you and people who disappointed you can still love you.
Know that both situations can be true.

So what should you do?

• Lower the expectation and increase the appreciation. Expect less entitlement from people, and appreciate more the little good they do.
• Talk, but don't torture.
  Tell them how you feel and that what they did hurt you.
  Lastly, forgive, whether they apologize well or not.
• Keep your heart soft.
  The worst thing disappointment can do to you is not the pain itself but turning you into someone who no longer believes in love, friendship, or family.

I am writing this while preparing for my parents' burial. And one of the things my parents taught me was that people will offend you including your own blood. But don't keep malice. A free heart lives longer.

Today, I am teaching my heart to accept disappointment even from people I love dearly because I have realized that peace is more expensive than pride.

Have you ever been deeply disappointed by someone you loved so much?
How did you handle it?
Did you forgive?
Or are you still holding on to it?

Let's talk in the comments.
Your story might heal someone including me who is struggling with a lot of disappointments.