The wrong battle ...

When someone discovers a betrayal, he has an almost automatic instinct - to look for whom to blame outside. And in these cases, the easiest thing is to point to the other person, the third, the one who was often deceived with the same lie.

That's why we see the same scene over and over again of two people fighting each other, while the one who really broke his word watches from afar, or is not even there (as in many cases). Now, this gives us a clear example of how emotions are handled when they are not worked on, and here, in this post, I explain it to you…

The anger and the pain of a betrayal are valid, the issue is where we direct that anger. Those who have a very solid self-esteem can fall, cry and break down, but at some point they understand that betrayal speaks of the one who betrayed, never of one's own value.

On the other hand, the one who still has that fragile floor, fights, competes, wears himself out trying to prove that he is worth more than the other, without realizing that he is fighting the wrong battle, is well fucked.

I am one of those who thinks that if I am deceived, the game is to see... how do I hurt the traitor the most?, I prefer out of self-respect to retire on time. Because the real triumph is to retire on time and prioritize self-worth, and that's called personal well-being.

I had two co-workers, both were the mistresses and they knew it, but of the two, there was one that was her first time doing that, and the other was used to it, both were discovered by the wives of the 2 cheating husbands and these betrayed women got the phone numbers of the mistresses and were insulted by the traitor's women hahahah, almost every day, I remember that everything got out of control, and they were fired from work because they were insulted almost daily at the workplace, one of the mistresses regretted for the damage she had caused , fell into depression, that even her hair fell out, she fell in love with the married man. In this type of tangled dynamics, we all get emotionally beaten up, the only thing that matters is to rescue our tranquility.

No one owns anyone, if respect is broken, dignity is collected and progress is made, there is always more road ahead.

Faced with the lack of values outside, the solution is not to isolate oneself out of fear, but to strengthen self-esteem to know how to identify red flags in time, and not negotiate mental peace.

Sometimes I don't understand, why blame the third party in the relationship? Because the emotional responsibility belongs to our partner. They say that a cheating person does it because of low self-esteem and raises his ego by being unfaithful. Betrayal always speaks of the shortcomings of the other and never of our own value.

Janitze 🍀