It's not an easy thing!...

The problem with expectations, is not what we think.

Today I want to tell you about something we needed to hear and didn't know about. The problem is not to have expectations, the networks have turned this concept into an enemy, as if it were something totally voluntary and conscious that we do, when it is not so. Expectations are often unconscious and respond to many factors. The problem we do have is creating them on the wrong people or at the least appropriate time.

It's normal to expect things from others, let's stop demonizing that, the problem is when I expect from you what you can't give me. You may even want to give it to me and you won't make it, then…

It's time to think, can the other person give me what I'm hoping for? And if the answer is no can I adjust what I expect? Because if I don't adjust what I want, knowing that it's impossible, I condemn myself to suffer or I have to take responsibility for making a decision, changing the person from whom I hope to receive it.

There is something inside us that already knows where it wants to go, and every time we postpone it, it stays there, waiting for us to decide, really. Expectations can be the basis for being motivated, but it is also a reason for frustration.

What happens when we stop waiting for the perfect moment and start moving with what we have today... For example: The human being returns to the moon, and we are still waiting for someone who says to us: "Get on!”. By someone who shows no interest and we justify him by saying that he is very busy, that who knows, or any number of things…

What this historical moment that humanity is experiencing shows us is that human beings, when they want, they feel like it and they want it, they can even reach the Moon and meet their expectations. Let's not justify disinterest, it's always good to assume what we are telling ourselves.

Here I am talking about a general pattern of disinterest, not specific events that anyone can have.

I have taken many blows in life for expecting everyone to be as I sometimes think they are a good person, kind, loyal, faithful, respectful, understanding, etc... and it turns out that no, people are not like that. So I have made the decision to give as is what they give to me.

Today, I woke up painting, my strokes came before the words but something inside was arguing and it wasn't my inner noise it was just an insistent question... Where do I grow up? And it was when I understood or thought I understood that I don't grow outward but inward, it's as if I knew that the path is not outside but in the inner current that guides it and maybe that's what it's all about. Sometimes we can want to, but things have to be accepted as they are, not as one wants them to be... that's maturity... The greatest gift we have is the here, the now and what we do with life.

Janitze 🦋