It's better to get away, without drama...

When you choose to share life with someone, you also choose to try to understand how they feel, interpret and live things.

We were taught from childhood that the one who perseveres achieves, and in many areas of life that does not work. In fact, there is one place where that formula breaks down completely with my dear people... and that is in love.

Because in love, insisting where you were already told that no, ceases to be perseverance and becomes self-abandonment...

And there are a lot of people out there, spending years of their lives trying to prove their worth to someone who has simply decided to look the other way.

Look, that's exactly what we work on in consultation all the time, in understanding why you cling to the one who lets you go, and in how to build a self-esteem that never depends on anyone's “yes”. Because in the end, the love that corresponds to you can come to you, without you having the despair of having to go begging.

Besides, true love does not stay the same, grow up. Over the years, our legs change, new dreams arise, old wounds leave traces and different needs appear, therefore, loving someone all your life does not mean falling in love just once, it means continuing to get to know, observe, and choose that person at each new stage.

The way to truly demonstrate the place that someone occupies in our life is with consistent actions such as: Making real space in our time, taking care of their details, remembering what hurts and what makes them happy. Protecting the relationship even when it's uncomfortable.To tell him with facts: You are safe here, you count on me, I choose you...Because in the end, I love you, it's said easy.

What really cares is that the other person feels that he is part of your life, not that he is an optional accessory.

Lasting relationships are not built with two people who never change, but with two people who learn to rediscover after each change. Let's never stop finding out who is next to us. And if a goal does not arrive, life does not end because there are many goals, but there are few paths of loyalty with you.

Men don't realize that their superpower is the security they give us. A woman would do anything for a man with whom she feels mentally, emotionally and physically safe.

If your goals are not consistent with what is valuable to you, you will not enjoy the efforts and the battles to achieve them will weigh on you.
It is also key to ask yourself if those paths you embrace are the ones you choose... or are they the ones imposed on you, you bought from others or the only thing you know.

Don't spend your life guarding other people's loyalties…

Janitze 🌴