Blocked... How do I solve it?

Nowadays, with this immediacy thing, we don't know if relationships really don't last or if we are at a level of demand and speed, that love also happens to us.

All relationships have differences, but the reality is that today those differences are being worked on less and less, because usually everything is solved with the block button.

Instead of facing the problem, the friction, the annoyance, a complete drama is made: idealization, blocking, and all this does is intoxicate a relationship.

What is the name of the play?

Emotional insecurity. And you know what's the saddest thing, that the more you repeat that cycle, the more you convince yourself that this is how love is, and look, no, that's not where it's going.

Every day you have to reinvent yourself, love evolves, it is also pleasant to have company, complicity, to remember the things you have in common and what bothers...and to talk about it from the same sidewalk, without facing each other because after all, whatever it is, they will always be together, if they decide to choose each other, at least so that they do not find disagreements but more camaraderie.

If you are living love from your insecurities and you see this as a pattern, you have to solve it and heal, I remind you that love is not perfect, your day is not perfect, But there you are giving your best.

Incredible how they want to impose a childish and toxic vision in which the love of a couple must enter into the standards of self-love that is trend, without even recognizing that every bond, absolutely every bond faces conflicts, separations, differences, because we are human, we are different. Let's look at who we are in a mirror before criticizing others.

Anxiety + impulsivity + immaturity... Do you think so, at least, I, who think I am an emotionally balanced person?. Life as a couple is a carousel of high and low emotions, observe every detail, falling in love is beautiful but you should always observe each behavior individually.

Relationship problems have much more to do with unresolved individual problems.

Really getting to love, I'm not talking about falling in love, I'm talking about really loving, it's a matter of time, of getting to know each other, of seeing each other's shadows and not just their lights, and being able to accept it as it is. It's about understanding that he is someone human and not someone out of a fairy tale.

But nowadays it is already difficult to get to that... because there are people who don't even fall in love, because they see something ugly in someone, that maybe attracts them, and somehow they block him, delete him from their lists of possible partners. There is very little tolerance for what is disliked, especially when it comes to social status, nowadays.

Janitze 🌹