It's funny that we have turned the word “interested” almost into an insult, when in a relationship it can mean exactly the opposite. Because to be interested in someone is also to keep asking. Keep wanting to know what he thinks, what he feels, what changed, what worries him, what he dreams now. It is not to assume that because we have been next to a person for twenty years, that we already know them completely.
Not necessarily because love is over, but because curiosity is over. We still love the person, yes... but sometimes we want the version we knew ten, twenty or thirty years ago. And meanwhile, that person kept living, changing, understanding new things, letting go of others.
Perhaps one of the most profound forms of intimacy is being able to look at the one you love and tell him... Let's talk I still want to meet you.
Because to feel loved is wonderful. But to still feel seen, heard and interesting to the person you love... that's another thing, it's another level.
So yes, dear husband was right: I am a very interesting woman!!!! In his thoughts, in his stories, in what he feels, in what I still don't know about him.
And don't worry... your credit cards are still perfectly safe. 😂 Of course, when we are senior citizens, we no longer want a prince, or any fairy tale princess, we just want a couple that makes us laugh, that helps us solve, and that has tricks like magicians up its sleeve because it is the couple that still knows how to create expectation, that does not let the relationship fall into routine, that appears with a surprise, an invitation, a look, an idea or a plan that we never imagined.
The man or the woman, at our ages after 55 they are equated to a Swiss army knife, these are useful and practical tools; they behave very well first of all. Situation. Although it is very true that no relationship works if there is no reciprocity.
It is also true that when we love, the Interest for that other person is never lost, although there are many men and women who do not like that type of interest, they see it as an invasion of personal space, I imagine they are not ready for a deep and mature love. In both cases there is no reciprocity, and that is very common.
We are changing with the passing years, and how nice it is that the changes come accompanied in the identity that we share in a relationship to continue discovering and getting to know each other.
And I hope they come in the same packaging because we are not here to manage three boyfriends or girlfriends either.
Janitze.🌷
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