At this age sometimes …

I am especially eceptic.

At the age of 28, I decided to leave a corporate career abroad and return to my city to do things for myself. It has been interesting, revealing and complex to fit into a hyper traditional society.

Some people ask me why I gave up what many of them dream of achieving by trying my luck at something I had never done.

This is my truth! ...

I feel that I love myself with all my shadows... there are no more distances. I just guide myself and mark my route daily from my knowledge; to follow a path with more successes and fewer mistakes.

If I don't know who I am, I'll never get anywhere. I'm sure many would like to have my tenacity to go after their own dreams, regardless of what society dictates as a recipe for life.

Look fellas, every existential crisis is born from the distance that exists between who you are today and what you want to be, especially because many expectations come from outside, especially from our parents, our family.

The problem lies in the ideal that we form based on what is demanded of us. This is where our emotional conflict begins.
In love, I have learned the hardest and most valuable lessons because no matter who I am and my good ways of being and behaving, at my age and in my social group I should HAVE more.

For 38 years I did what society expected of me and achieved professional success, recognition, very good salaries, the company of beautiful people, travel, material goods and "being a successful person".

These last 5 years, with many challenges, disagreements, economic and emotional stumbles, have been the happiest of my life. I have had the happiness of finding abilities and abilities every day, even some soft ones, that I never suspected.

Now I know that, because it is not the normal path of society, it is a lonely but beautiful path. An adventure that with responsibility to myself, is worth living. I surround myself with much fewer people, but they are friendships that are on fire, in all and without conditions walking next to me.

Social expectations, and what will they say are affecting the world, because of unattainable stereotypes, what do we have to learn? Seeing each other, getting to know each other, accepting each other, working on us based on our own expectations. And the world that applauds or passes by.

You evolved, in other words...

It means "move that life is today."I want to be where there is life. For me, respecting where I come from, life is here. That makes people who take care of themselves. I wish more people would do their own tour.

Being yourself is the best decision we can make to live in congruence with who we really want to be. And I have achieved this by learning to live from my own expectations, without assuming the ideal that others expect of me.

We cannot go through life pleasing everyone and leaving ourselves aside. We are often the ideal that others expect. I ask them: Are you clear about who you are and who you want to be? See you in comments.

Janitze.