Entitlement makes them blind

Hello everyone, yesterday was very hectic. As I write this post, I am still exhausted. I will not be going to the gym today; I will use today as my rest day because I am still going out to do my daily activities. Even though I am sleepy, I must wake up early and put this together so that I can be on time for my schedule.

While trying to think about what to write today, I would like to share what happened to me a few days ago because I was misjudged about so many things by one of my family members that I like so much.

I received a call from one of my close relatives that I didn't give him money like I used to and the last time I gave him money, it was 4000 naira. If he had known that it was 4000 naira, he would have sent my money back, he said he knew I had more than enough and that I shouldn't be sending him 4000 Naira.

I was so disappointed because he is one of those people I admire so much, and that coming from him makes me feel disappointed because the last time he called, he needed some help and I was so broke, and I didn't have any money with me, and the 4000 Naira he was complaining about was all that was left with me at that time and this is what I'm getting for doing that.

It is nothing

Sometimes, people don't fully understand the effort behind the help they receive, and may not appreciate it if they perceive it to be small or insignificant. However, it's important to remember that those offering assistance may be sacrificing more than what is immediately apparent. It's easy to underestimate the impact of small acts of kindness, but they can leave a big hole in the lives of the person rendering the help.

This is a hard time for most people who are fully dependent on Crypto, I had to do extra jobs just to support myself in this crazy time, and the situation of the country doesn’t even make sense. I know when he called, I could have just said I don't have any money, but I sent him all the money left with me, feeling he would understand but I was wrong and sometimes just because you are not complaining, people think you have it all.

It makes them blind

It is funny how people make you feel when you can provide what they need for them and this set of people have done little or nothing for you, and when you are even trying to explain to them your current situation, they will never believe it. They always feel you should have done better and forget you are also human too.

It can be beneficial to empathize and imagine ourselves in other people's situations. Unfortunately, some entitled individuals tend to be selfish and inconsiderate, even when they understand the challenges we face. They prioritize their own needs and desires, disregarding our struggles.

Sometime just say no

I believe one of the reasons why this close family relative was feeling like this was because I've always tried in the past to give him some of the needs he imposed on me, and even then, it's not as if I have a lot, but because I like him a lot, I just want him to feel that he has a family somewhere that can truly help but he got it all wrong and the learns I learned from this is that sometimes it is better to just say no.

I believe when you help people, especially those who are very close to you, you help them based on your love and likeness for them and it reinforces their sense of entitlement because we know they are asking for too much but we do it anyway. It is better to just say no sometimes, especially when you feel they are asking for too much, putting yourself in a difficult situation to help them is not always right because it justifies their entitlement and we should say no sometimes, this way, it eradicates those beliefs and mentality.