We all have our personalities, characters and behaviors of all kinds, and we do have various perspectives and reasoning towards understanding what is right and wrong especially as adults 馃懇馃徎 rights ?
But it baffles me how we sometimes act as if we don鈥檛 have blood 馃└ running in our veins, treating others the way we do not expect them to treat us or will not want to be treated. Should this be seen as acting wicked or just nonchalant attitude?
A friend I have known for years really did wronged me till this date. I have forgiven her but will not forget easily because I see her as more than a friend. I could not believe the way the relationship we built for over 10 years plus ended after this act of nonchalant behavior I want to narrate to us. Although she is older than me with almost almost 13 years but we see ourselves as big sister and a junior sister.
I met this friend of mine in my teenage years, when I was working as a Secretary/Customer Relations in a company. Then she was among our suppliers and we related very well with each other, we became very close sharing sisterhood together, and I keep helping her out when ever she comes around my office. And our relationship blossom with time into family friend because after I got married, had my children, we were still in friendship.
In fact the relationship was one that extended that I got to meet the aged father who was a retired police officer and owned a property at Mobolaji BankAnthony Way, Ikeja, via local airport. And as time passes I met her family members. We visit each other, spends weekends together and share problems together.
And after few years their father died, they decided to sell the Ikeja property because shop rents coming from there was not much and the building was actually built by her sisters who were based in the United State. They felt that selling the property will bring more money because of its location at the heart 鈾ワ笍 of Ikeja. By doing this, everyone will receive percentages. And indeed an Insurance company purchased the property for millions of Naira.
However, this act of sale prompted my friend to starting looking for accommodation from her own share of the first installment paid by the Insurance company because she was hoping to start building her own house once the second installment is paid. And because I was already into Realtor/Letting job, she asked me to help out with my agents connection. After much searching , bustling and hustling, I secured a three bedroom apartment for her which I was just part of the agents. All negotiations and agreement was discussed with her which she agreed to and paid. All I gained was my on share of the agency which was given to me by the principal agent who is direct to the building.
Behold my friend could not allow me to rest after few weeks she moved into the house. She complained that I allowed them to over charged her. She kept complaining but I made her to understand that I was not the owner of the property nor the principal agent. I referenced her to their own building they sold. They had a lawyer who handled everything. Then we moved on. After six months, the Insurance company paid up the second installment which is the final. My friend called me to help her for land search which I started making contacts for
immediately. And once I had few locations arranged, I called her for us to go for inspection which we did the first day from morning till evening. Then the second day, we set out again to some other locations from morning again to into the mid afternoon when it started raining 鈽旓笍. Main while my friend was rejecting everywhere we went to which was supposed to fail into her budget.
She promised to call 馃摫 me the next day for us to schedule for other places and never called me. Even some of my co-agents we are supposed to settle for taking us around was on me and I was forced to settle them financially to maintain my relationship with them. Weeks went, months went, my friend never called me. I decided to leave her to realize her mistakes as an adult 馃懇馃徎.
Friendships are what kept many going in life but those that are toxic maybe after years we should let go.
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