I don鈥檛 think people as individuals are born with stubbornness, neither does any parent wants to give birth to a stubborn child 馃懅. But what I believe in is that upbringing, environments and circumstances builds up people to what they are today.
And talking of stubbornness, I can say humans begin to emulate and choose on how to behave or act in situations they encounter through the stages of life, which leads and make many into choosing to be stubborn naturally or become stubborn in some certain situations they felt they are right.
People will simply term you a stubborn person when you are trying to convince them that they are wrong in certain matters, when you are proofing to someone that you are not a fool, and when you don鈥檛 want to give up easily because they are trying to use you. This is how the world runs their affairs.
Growing up I did not see myself as a stubborn person because of the environment I was brought up in. A fifth child of six children 馃懄 of my parents. We like to respect and listen to each other. Share feelings and love 鉂わ笍 one another. I mean this is what most home are like, right ? Although some other families might be different since every parents has a way they choose to bring up their children.
My immediate environment never give me any reason to be stubborn and even while I was in boarding school 馃彨, I choose friends that are like me in everything I do because I love gentleness and does not have time for uproar energy to fight anyone.
Personally too, I don鈥檛 think stubbornness is a bad act, especially being stubborn in something you know you are right. I once had a friend whom I was very close with for many years. We eat together, go to places together and have personal secrets we share as friends. But as time goes on, my family and I moved to another location in Lagos , which leaves two of us with different locations. But despite this change I continue to maintain our relationships
I will try as much as I could to visit my friend, call her up to check on her and her family. And it happened that after a while, I stated felling so bad on why my friend can call me if I don鈥檛 call her? Why will she never intend coming to visit me, to even know the new location we moved to. This made me felt so bad that I stopped calling or checking on her. I decided to give her time to recollect herself. It took her almost few months to reach out to me, and was forced to do that because another of our friend was asking me her about me. I saw this as not healthy and decided not to continue that relationship. This might be one way to be stubborn , but I did not care .
I have also made a mistake by being stubborn . Not that I was wrong in the incident but because I did not take the right decision at the proper time. So we have to always understand in a simple term that being stubborn is not a bad behavior as long as you know you are doing the right thing or standing your ground where necessary.
This is my response to the #hiveleaners featured content for week 232, edition 02.
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