Where have all the nice guys gone?
I’ve been talking with some women friends of
mine about their adventures
in the world of dating
and I can’t help but notice the same pattern. My female friends want to find nice guy’s that treat them well,
yet seem to meet nice guys that don’t give them that spark. Even worse they meet jerks that do give them
a spark but treat them poorly.
What is really going on here? Do women say they want one
thing but really want another? The real
problem here is not with the women and it’s not really nice guy’s faults either. There seems to be a
communication problem here. Its seems that the way women define nice guys, and the way men define
nice guys are somewhat different.
Women define these characteristics in nice guys: Secure,
confident, ambitious, empathetic,
compassionate, passionate, funny, exciting, challenging, and sexy
For a man being a nice guy means: Buying women things,
being polite, agreeing with everything
they say, putting women’s needs before their own, letting women make all the decisions. Not being
sexually aggressive. In other word Boring, Needy, Safe, non-sexy.
I’m not sure where men get this from. Who taught them this?
The fact is that most men believe
that this is what women want. Could blame Justin Beber songs,
TV shows, movies who knows.
The fact is that many men are on the same page about what it means to be a nice guy and they
are out there revolting women all over the world!
It all makes sense now. No wonder women can’t find any
nice guy’s. The nice guys are all pretending
to be something else. The nice guy always complains about
how women are always attracted to jerks.
Men who are jerks are not afraid to be themselves. Nice guys
should stop trying to act in a way that
they think women want then to, and start being themselves.
After all this is what women really want
most of all, an authentic man, a man who is comfortable being himself!