I welcome you to my blog. Once it comes to family management, nobody is perfect. Mr. and Mrs. Daniel's style might differ from that of Mr. and Mrs. Samuels, but what matters is that it works for them, and if they have got their family running in all aspects perfectly, then there is no need to judge their style. Just focus on whatever style you must have chosen and make it work for you. The same way there are different parenting styles, some parents feel they are the only ones's entitled to correct their child, and there are parents too who feel it is okay for outsiders to correct their child, but it should known that all both parents want is for their child to be on the right track and not grow up to be a nuisance to the general public.
There are also parents who believe that sharing their problem or family's struggles with their children is not the good way to go about running their family; they believe that they are the parents and are expected to act all tough while they hide whatever the problem might be, struggling with it silently and dying on the inside while making the kids believe that all is well, but there are also parents who feel it is a family and the kids are part of the family and should be aware of whatever is going on in the family. Either way, both parents are right in their own way; the style of running a home and parenting differs, but all that makes it count is that it works.
For me, I was raised by parents who act all tough and don't want to burden the kids with the problems and struggles of the family, but keeping everything all boxed up does not help solve the problem. Sometimes sharing the problem with the kids can make you as a parent feel better and in some cases can actually help profess a solution. The uncle I lived with once will always say kids can give advice too, so you cannot just write the kids off because you don't want to burden them without knowing they can actually help or give advice that can help solve the problem.
For me, I feel once a child has come of age or is seen as someone with understanding, the parents should be open to their children, as that way the kids will know how to behave and try to be of help in anyway they can, as I doubt there is any child out there who loves to see their parent suffer or struggle, so instead of adding to the parent's struggles, they are forced to adjust and be of help. Lately, my parents have turned from being those that keep it boxed up to those who open and share their struggles with their kids, as they have come to the realization that there are ways in which sharing struggles with kids helps.
Hiding the family struggles from the kids is like cutting them off and keeping certain details from them, so once they are of age and can reason, they should be allowed to know the affairs of the family. A child cannot help when they don't know what is really going on; when you make them feel like everything is fine, they believe it is, and instead of acting in ways that help the family, they act in the opposite of that.
