Actually, I am not able to get the right title for this post. But as you go through my post you will understand what I want to communicate.
This is something very personal that I want to share, as I always say things that I cannot speak out I write in my blogs and express my feelings.
It is about my Son and his fianc茅e. They have been going around since last 7 years and she has become a part of our family. For me she is like my second child, my daughter. My hubby is very attached with her, as he always wanted one daughter and since we had a Son, he takes her as our daughter.
Since the last few months both my Son and her have been having some differences. And then finally they have decided to be apart. This is a very big emotional moment for us, it is just not about their relationship. Me and my hubby are heavily invested with our emotions in their relationship. I am still ok and I take things very practically but my hubby is not like that. He is very sensitive when it comes to relationship. Anyways that's a different story and just setting the background to take this further.
For me, I will never give up on both of them. I know things have gone wrong between them but I have this hope that things will be fine soon. Since she is also like my daughter, I have not disconnected from her and we keep having our conversations. Today morning me and Bhavya had a long conversation on relationships and just about general life. She is very spiritual and she is learning healing also, that strongly bonds us.
I asked her what is it that separates my Son and her, and she said there are many things, and she is not able to forget certain actions and move forward. Now I know what these actions are. Both of them have fallen out of their relation with someone else and then again come together. And both of them are not able to forgive each other for that. Yes, I know that is something intense, but I still believe that there is nothing in life that you cannot forgive. We all make mistakes, especially in relations, but we need to learn lessons from that and grow. We cannot be stuck with our mistakes for life. If there is true, unconditional love we can always work it out then be it whatever the situation is.
She says she still loves him, but not sure what their future is. My only question to her is, that she should imagine herself with some other person and will she be happy in that. If yes, she should move forward, else she should think over their decision.
We all make mistakes in our youth age right, and not only in our youth, we keep making mistakes all our lives, but we should not make hard decisions on that which later on we may repent for. We need to sometime keep our emotions on one side and be a little rationale as to why those mistakes have happened in the first place.
Life brings us through many such circumstances where we feel that no I cannot go any further on this path. If that brings happiness to you, it is fine, we should change our paths, but, if that leaves us restless than that path is for us and we just need to make some adjustments on that path to start again moving forward.
A lot of people do not agree with how I think, because my only philosophy in life is to not get stuck at any point. To move forward and that's why sometimes people find me very cold and sometimes they find me very emotional.
In their case yes, I am emotional and I want to give them all that perspective to save their relation. After that also if they fall apart then I will willingly accept it, but I do not want them to fall apart for some mistakes. Unconditional Love from each other is not something that you find in every couple, where you can hold each other in their good times, bad times, mistakes or whatever.
Me and my hubby got married at a very young age, I was 21 and he was 24 and we made our share of mistakes also. We made grave mistakes and those reasons were enough to end our marriage but whenever we would think of ending, we would realize that be it whatever we loved each other and we could not imagine our life without each other, and that love cruised us through our 26 years of married life. No relation is perfect and no one is perfect, we have our flaws, but the beauty in it is to accept each other's flaws and harmonize the relation. What do you think about this?
I will keep counselling both of them, and I am not hopeful, but I am sure they will again come together because their love is true for each other.
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