Many people think jealousy is good while many others think it is bad but what is it actually is it bad or good. Now it can be seen in different ways. It has good sides and it also has bad sides. It is not like this only in the case of jealousy. I think everything has good and bad sides. That means we should not say that something is completely bad.
One thing is that I used to feel very jealous when I had a girlfriend. Later problems started happening in our relationship. I did not understand that it would cause something like this because I never expressed to her how I was feeling. I would just forbid her from doing things. I would say you will not do this. You will not talk to him. You will not meet him. Why are you laughing so much. You cannot do anything like this. By giving restrictions like this again and again the relationship becomes like this. But since it was my first relationship I had no idea about it. That is why without understanding I used to be this kind of boyfriend.
Then as I grew older I slowly started taking advice from my other friends. I listened to their point of view. Then I understood that I was wrong in many places. But they all told me one thing. It would not be right to make my partner do something she does not want to do just because I feel jealous. Telling someone they should do something for their good is different. But using my feelings like jealousy to push her into doing something she does not want to do that is not fair. It feels wrong because it comes from me and not from what is truly best for her.
Or I do not know. I do not think I am an insecure person because I think jealousy is like affectionate. Just like when there is love there are some small problems too. Everything cannot be perfect. We are humans after all and humans make mistakes.
So I would say that in such a situation if a girlfriend does something that you do not like then you should directly tell her that. And another thing you should do is if you see that she is doing the same thing again and again then you have to explain to her that I do not like it or if it is your girlfriend then you should explain to her that do not do this way because it makes me feel bad. I think if she really loves you then she will understand that.
And if you see that even after telling her again and again she is still doing it then you should not keep the relationship. You should have a relationship with someone whose mindset matches with you. And if the ideology does not match then living together becomes impossible because there are clashes due to both people having different opinions.
But I am not like before anymore. Now I think about everything differently. Like now I do not have any girlfriend but my family is looking for a girl for me and maybe I will get married next year or the year after that. So then I will definitely not make these mistakes that I made before. I will make sure that my relationship does not become toxic.
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