Prioritizing yourself is not selfishness, it is...

A form of self-love.

Silence can also be a way of giving up because the one who does not speak out of love, betrays himself out of fear, and when you get used to betrayed, you end up losing yourself.

Not everything that looks like peace, is love.

Are you keeping quiet too much in your relationship? Believe me, this applies to family, couple, friends, and talking about it, puts you on the path of decisions and solutions.

We all walk around with our little green dwarfs fluttering, we just have to be aware, if one grows more than another, in fact, we can crush it so that it stays a dwarf and does not become a monster, or stay in the loop of catastrophic, guilty or vengeful thinking, forever. I wish we could all detect it early to change it by questioning its benefit or make it dizzy with another pleasant activity.

One of my brothers, shared his life with a woman of a very strong character, after being widowed, living with his wife for 18 years of marriage, Susi unfortunately died of breast cancer, and when comparing the such great differences in treatment and respect with the current partner decided to leave her, because between humiliations and rudeness on her part, my brother knew that it would not last long.by his side. Now he became the bad guy of the movie, because he had to put up with the expletives and abuse, hahaha after this hard experience of abuse, my brother has understood that when a woman has more money than a man, he usually always remains as a hindrance or is humiliated, I don't know why that happens.

Similarly, there are people who like you to do well, but not better than them!! 😳 .

Currently in my husband's family, and it is unfortunate, what is happening, all his brothers are family, and they are all born from the same maternal womb. In this case, as in all families, everyone ends up seeing life from their own point of view and in their own movie. How is it happening to my husband with his 6 siblings, who have been close, but have also been far, from each other.

My husband's brothers, including him, have a point of connection with their mom, who currently has advanced Alzheimer's, but still survives them at the age of 89, but despite that, they know about each other, but they do not have a common life, in fact they have more affinities with others outside the family, than with the same family...

This is very common, it happens more than we imagine, however, despite that they do not leave the nexus, although they currently have a conflict point, for making decisions about the mother, who should be removed to a nursing home for her degree of dementia.

Why? Well, everyone has their socioeconomic, social reality, as well as beliefs and also within those beliefs it is possible that during the coexistence in early childhood and adolescence there were differences and incompatibilities between them that were never corrected (resolved) and that on the fly if they had had more closeness and connection (in adulthood) they would have solved, but that never happened, and currently it is not going to happen either because everyone lives far away in other countries, and when there is a reunion because of their mom, they only see and talk over and not about what they keep their shadows inside.

I am very sorry that this is happening now, between brothers, it seems incredible that people cannot understand each other when it comes to economic issues and what to do with feelings? Because everyone prioritizes from their own point of view, that's why, somehow, they protect their self-love and their finances.

I said to my husband, stay calm everything is going to go back to its channel, the rivers grow, they overflow, and again they return to their channel, but they do not replicate, that is, they are always going to be different.

Letting go of what is not yours is also a way to start taking care of yourself; and this applies to everything in life; work, relationships, studies, goals, etc...!

Janitze 🦋