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Most people want to improve themselves in some way, whether it is to lose weight or give up smoking or to increase their confidence. Self improvement is a thing that we carry over whole life time,
but it is a task that can require a lot of motivation. Keeping your motivation levels up can be a job in itself.
There is always something about ourselves we can improve on. Our potential is limitless , so it is not possible to reach a point of no growth. Whenever we think we are good, we can be even better. To encourage gowth, I continuously look for ways to self-improve.
Self improvement is needed in everyone. It doesn't matter what we are or what we look like or from which background we have come from. We all need self improvement. To all of us, self improvement is needed in our daily lives just like our basic necessities. It helps to cater us with understanding, wisdom and knowledge.
I would like to share one of my experience. I never thought I needed self improvement. I thought I was fine as I am and did not need to do any kind of adjustment in myself. I thought I was a good girl with good characteristics, but I was wrong. So there was a phase in my life when for each and everything I use to say YES for every work or to people around me. It was not a generous "yes!".
My “yes” was full of guilt, and a fear that saying no would mean losing friends, being mean. As I moved through my twenties, it became harder for me to keep saying “yes” to everyone else bcoz it meant "no" to myself. I wasn't enjoying the kind of relationship I craved or the food which I like to eat.
And keep saying yes to everyone around though I did not like to do was not a good thing. I can lie to others and can show that i am very happy but I can't always lie to myself. Finally after a lot of mishappenings and having a self guilt I started saying "no" in a very messy way. I ended my relationship and made a not so clean break and started loosing batch mates, as they find me egoistic but that is okay.
I know I should clearly say NO, but wow! I finally started saying "no" and that was a good kick. But now I handle things a lot better. In fact, now I can avoid the problem by simple saying NO. This is what I want to share with you and I hope u will avoid the frustration and can relate with it, coz we all have come to this particular phase in our lives.
How to say "no":- simply compliment them, or clearly state your no, it should not sound aggressive while saying no. There are lot many things which will help.
No means more yes. As we will start saying no we will make time for ourselves and we will not go any longer into useless things.
When we say no to things that we don't want then we ultimately have huge space to say yes for the things that we want. It takes time to learn when and how to say no. But once we learn it then things will become easy for us.
