Hola amigos de esta comunidad donde se habla del m谩s m铆nimo detalle que contribuya al crecimiento personal. @Holos&Lotus es el hogar donde otros ponen su mano en la nuestra para mostrarnos una nueva visi贸n, un nuevo camino.
Ya ha pasado d茅cada y media de mis 40, es mucho tiempo, s铆; por ello es que puedo delimitar en que consiste: causas, consecuencias y ense帽anzas. Investigadora social como soy deb铆a ir a la ra铆z del concepto, pero en este como en otros temas voy m谩s a la experiencia y sensibilidad que a la epistemologia.
A煤n as铆 referir茅 lo que entiende alguna literatura por crisis de los 40 o crisis de la mediana edad.
La crisis de los 40 es aquella que aparece cuando, al bordear la cuarta d茅cada, hacemos un balance de nuestro transcurso vital. Respecto a la duraci贸n, puede ser muy variable seg煤n la persona: de d铆as o incluso a帽os, dependiendo de c贸mo se gestione.
El termino no tiene complicaci贸n, lo cierto es que los que pasamos de los 40 hemos sentido cambios; los que no pues quiz谩s les sirva aprenderlo aqu铆 porque aunque esta no es una iniciativa seguramente alguien se anima y nos cuenta de sus cambio en un post o en comentarios.
Mis 40 a帽os fue una etapa de cierre de ciclos. Mi vitalidad hab铆a mermado y pod铆a verlo en mi organismo, largos per铆odos con bajos niveles de hemoglobina, causados por miomas limitaban el plan de lograr un embarazo.
Un proceso hormonal realizado en Francia en el 2007, dej贸 un alto costo monetario, f铆sico y emocional. La Inseminaci贸n In Vitro (FIV) proceso sumamente costoso, no arroj贸 el resultado esperado luego de un a帽o de tratamientos.
Algo estaba claro, con 40 a帽os, el embarazo no se hab铆a concibido ni por v铆a natural, ni espiritual, no era raro que la v铆a cient铆fica fallara.
La crisis comenz贸 a ser evidente, sent铆 que ese ciclos se cerraba. Me atrap贸 la nostalgia, la abulia. Pensaba, 驴si no tengo a qui茅n esperar, cu谩l es el sentido de mi vida?. No era feliz y no hac铆a feliz a nadie.
Ve铆a a un ni帽o, a una mujer embarazada y me dec铆a, 驴Por que yo no?, lo hubiese hecho bien. Es un proceso al que se suman la indiscreci贸n y morbo de algunas personas. Son frecuentes frases como:
Eres est茅ril
Est谩s seca
El 煤nico amor verdadero es el de madre
Un hijo es lo m谩s grande
Apend铆 a lidiar con esas circunstancias y haciendo un recuento, para los 40 a帽os ya hab铆a dado mucho amor. Unos a煤n lo reciben, otros no lo necesitan.
La crisis de los 40 deja, adem谩s, cambios en el aspecto f铆sico. Tuve p茅rdida de cabello, nuevos eventos de acn茅, s铆ntomas de menopausia y otros detalles asociados con la osteosporosis.
Ning煤n camino estaba equivocado; la naturaleza, la ciencia y la espiritualidad van de la mano y todas dan respuestas seg煤n su alcance. La 煤ltima me dio la resignaci贸n, la conformidad y una ense帽anza: l
a vida nos da oportunidades no debemos arriesgarla porque no sabemos si nos tienen otras reservadas.
Tuve un renacimiento a los 50, recuper茅 el brillo de mis ojos, la sonrisa como escudo y medicina. Recuper茅 la certeza de mi misi贸n y fue entonces cuando obtuve un pase a bordo para continuar viaje.
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Gracias por visitar mi blog, soy Critica de arte e Investigadora Social, amante de la cocina. Te invito a conocer m谩s de mi, de mi pa铆s y de lo que escriboEsta publicaci贸n ha sido escrita y documentada por m铆 y las im谩genes utilizadas son de mi propiedad.
Midlife crisis, a boarding pass to continue the journey
Hello friends of this community where we discuss even the smallest details that contribute to personal growth. @Holos&Lotus is the home where others extend their hand to ours to show us a new vision, a new path.
It's been a decade and a half since I turned 40, a long time, yes; that's why I can define what it consists of: causes, consequences, and lessons. As a social researcher, I had to get to the root of the concept, but in this, as in other topics, I rely more on experience and sensitivity than on epistemology.
Even so, I will refer to what the literature understands by midlife crisis.
A midlife crisis occurs when, on the brink of our forties, we take stock of our life. The duration can vary greatly from person to person: from days to even years, depending on how we manage it.
The term isn't complicated; the truth is that those of us over 40 have experienced changes. For those who haven't, it might be helpful to learn about them here because, although this isn't an initiative, someone will surely be encouraged to tell us about their changes in a post or in the comments.
My 40s were a time of closing cycles. My vitality had waned, and I could see it in my body. Long periods of low hemoglobin levels, caused by fibroids, limited my plans for achieving pregnancy.
A hormonal procedure performed in France in 2007 left a high monetary, physical, and emotional cost. In vitro insemination (IVF), an extremely expensive process, did not yield the expected results after a year of treatment.
One thing was clear: at 40 years old, the pregnancy was not conceived through natural or spiritual means; it was not unusual for the scientific method to fail.
The crisis began to become evident; I felt that cycle closing in. Nostalgia and apathy gripped me. I thought, if I don't have anyone to wait for, what's the point of my life? I wasn't happy, and I wasn't making anyone happy.
I saw a child, a pregnant woman, and I told myself, I would have done it right. It's a process compounded by the indiscretion and morbidity of some people. Phrases like: You're sterile
You're dry
The only true love is a mother's love
A child is the greatest thing
All of this may be true, and it is, but I learned to deal with those circumstances, and looking back, by the time I was 40, I'd already given a lot of love. Some still receive it, others don't need it. Children choose, too.
The midlife crisis leaves changes in one's physical appearance. I experienced hair loss, new acne outbreaks, menopause symptoms, and other details associated with osteoporosis.
No path was wrong; nature, science, and spirituality go hand in hand and all provide answers according to their scope. The last gave me resignation, conformity, and a lesson: life gives us opportunities; we shouldn't risk them because we don't know if others are in store for us.
I experienced a rebirth at 50; I regained the sparkle in my eyes, my smile as a shield and a cure. I regained certainty about my mission and obtained a boarding pass to continue my journey.
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