It's definitely not a coincidence that coffee has become an essential part of our daily lives, this is a decision so many people made after experiencing the goodness & impact of this elixir of so many things. Speaking of energy, productivity, focus, alertness, inspiration, and others, coffee blesses me with these things just after a cup or two, and it's just amazing.
I have shared a few times how coffee sets the perfect atmosphere for me and my spouse to have deep conversations. It keeps us locked in somehow, and I believe so many people have beautiful things to say as well. We all have different reasons for always wanting coffee, and despite the high consumption rate across the world, there are people who don't like coffee, which doesn't surprise me because we can't expect everyone to share the same interests with us.
In a situation where I went on a date with someone for the first time and she didn't like coffee, it's definitely not a problem for me, and that would never affect whatever kind of relationship we have built before my discovery. I might want to know why, meaning I will ask questions but not from a criticizing point of view. Those questions will even help me get to know the person better, and I can even figure out some of our common interests. If things don't eventually work out between us, it wouldn't be because she doesn't like coffee.
It would be terrible of me to trash a relationship that might impact my life positively with the excuse that the person doesn't like coffee. After all, there are so many things people around like that I don't, and they didn't because of that cut me off.
Sometime last year, a woman I help oversee her fish farming business invited me over to meet her husband, who just returned from the US. I was offered coffee after settling down, and surprisingly the woman wasn't sharing coffee with us. It was just me and the husband, which made me curious.
A while after chatting, I was forced to ask why she wasn't drinking coffee too, and she said, "I don't like coffee."
It's a different situation for my mom, who doesn't hate coffee, but she prefers tea any time of day; she would rather wait to have tea than opt in for coffee easily. These two women are amazing people with awesome personalities. They are kindhearted, and yet they don't have an interest in coffee meaning drinking coffee doesn't define us.
Their lack of interest in coffee doesn't take a pinch out of their love towards humanity, while there are those who drink coffee day in, day out, and do not care a bit about humanity, so it's not just about the drink. Most times when I meet people newly, I focus more on their behavior & personality, so connecting with people is more about who they really are beyond the coffee table.
As important as coffee might be to me, it's just a drink that wouldn't determine how I live my life, those I choose to be bring close to me, and decisions I make. The most important thing to me about the drink is how well it makes me feel, and that's it. If someone I am meeting for the first time is a coffee lover just like me, it would be nice because that would have a good impression on me, but what if focusing on our common interest (coffee) distracts me from paying attention to who this person really is?
In the end, coffee might be our go-to drink always, but it's wrong to make it a deciding factor in anything tagged as a relationship. It's important that we respect people's interests and choices as long as they don't harm or pose a threat to humanity.
All through my journey in life, I have seen how important embracing diversity is because it makes life richer. Whether you are a coffee lover or not, it's the love, kindness, and humanity we share among ourselves that truly matters.
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