I've been considering removing someone from my life; I don't want to get into why, suffice it to say I don't respond to negativity well and have no place in my life for those who bring it needlessly. This doesn't mean I can't deal with negativity; like all of us, I have to deal with negative situations and events, other people and even in myself, but if I can remove it I will, and that's what's been on my mind with this particular individual.
We are entwined, humans I mean, and the things we do ripple outwards to touch others directly or by default and, with the world being so small these days due to technology, something that a person says or does across the other side of the world can cause us to feel emotion, good or bad. Of course, those we come into contact with directly are simmilarly impacted; we're all entwined in some way or enother, even if it's only an emotional entanglement from a distance.
The person I am talking about in this post isn't that far away, he lives locally and I interact with him regularly but I always come away feeling worse than I did when I arrived and I'm disinclined to permit another person to make me feel that way; I have enough things to deal with as it is, I don't need more.
I've held to a phrase that has become somewhat of a life-ethos for me. It helps me see and act upon negativity and whilst some I can't change, much of it I can, such as with the chap in this post. It's a choice, and whilst sometimes choosing to walk away may adversely affect other aspects of life, one must decide what's important, what is the best way forward based on the information to hand, and ultimately it brings reward, or at least lessens the amount of negative energy one experiences.
if someone or something is negative, don't go as often and don't stay as long; and if you can avoid going altogether, do that.
- g-dog -
That's the phrase; simple right? It's powerful though, empowering and extremely positive when applied in the right situations.
It's not a phrase or ethos that suits every situation of course, sometimes we have to live entwined with negativity - there's other attitudes and actions for when that happens - but in many cases simply removing oneself from the negativive force will result in a great deal of forward progression in one's own life and I htink that's valuable. It doesn't matter where the negative force comes from; it could be the news service, a work colleague, friend or acquaintance, family member, an event or situation...The same phrase applies.
I'm not about to say this process is easy because it's not, but I always ask myself what the upside and downside of the situation is and usually I find that putting myself first, my wellbeing, happiness and state of mind, is the answer. I only have one life afterall and I like to take the ownership required to make it a better one each day. I can't help that we're all entwined, connected as humans, and therefore negativity passes along from one to the other, but I can apply a filter and that's what this phrase helps me do.
I wonder how you deal with negative events, situations and people when they present themselves. Do you buy-into the drama, embrace the negativity, allow it to settle upon you and seep within? Maybe you take a similar approach to myself? If you're keen, drop me a comment below and tell me about it, or about a situation in which you had to make a decision based on it being negative. What did you do and was the outcome positive and valuable?
Design and create your ideal life, don't live it by default - Tomorrow isn't promised so be humble and kind
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