One thing I've realized is that the truth remains unchanged and will endure through eternity. However, people often dislike hearing this, especially when they are in love. When we discover certain truths about the people we love, we may believe they can change. But based on my experiences, people typically do not change. Instead, they find other ways to conceal the truth from you. If you tend to observe things closely, you will eventually uncover the truth. However, if you love that person, you might overlook certain aspects; your decisions often stem from your emotions, which is understandable given your love for them.
Advising someone in love can be challenging because, no matter how sound your advice may be, there’s a good chance they won’t follow it due to their feelings. We can’t blame them; love is a beautiful experience, and at some point in our lives, we all want to feel loved. However, it becomes painful when you recognize red flags in your partner, understand the truth about them, and choose to ignore those signs simply because you don’t want to hurt their feelings or because you believe they will change. Remember, a red flag is not just a minor issue; it signifies a serious problem. It’s nearly impossible for someone to change, especially if they don’t share your feelings.
love change people
I believe that people don’t fundamentally change, but I’ve come to realize something else. If you love someone and they love you in return—and if both of you are willing to make the relationship work—then change may be possible. Love is incredibly powerful, and it can lead to transformative actions. One of love's abilities is to inspire individuals to accomplish the impossible, often without even realizing it. I’ve observed intelligent people who, when it comes to those they love, sometimes act foolishly. They may remain wise in their professional lives or when interacting with others, yet when it comes to their loved ones, they don’t always make the best choices.
People may not change fundamentally, but love has the power to inspire change within us. It can influence our behaviors, beliefs, and the way we approach life. For example, a father who truly loves his children may change his ways for the sake of his family, and these changes can positively impact his children. I believe that love has the ability to transform us. However, if you do not love your partner in return or are not willing to change for them, it can be challenging to make the relationship work.
Intention is important
The only way to know if people truly want to change for you is through their intentional actions. You will see their commitment to change reflected in what they do, rather than just relying on their words. Those who genuinely seek change will prioritize it and integrate it into their lives. Love can sometimes blind us into believing that people who aren't making an effort will eventually change, but that's a false hope. This illusion can lead us to waste our time and energy.
It's important to understand that nobody is perfect. The closer you are to someone, the more you notice the areas in which they might need to change. If they truly love you as much as you love them, they will make an effort to change—even without you having to ask. They will prioritize that change and integrate it into their lives, making it easy for you to recognize their efforts. You won’t have to stress about it because you’ll see that they are trying their best to improve. This shows that they are being intentional about their growth. However, if you don’t see this effort, it may be best to let them go to avoid further hurt.
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