Back in school, I once dated a lady where I frequented her residence more than she did mine. Now, this was because her place was more secure for our amorous meetings, since I was still stuck with a roommate then. At some point in our relationship, we became very close and intimate, sharing a lot together.
Now, since I was more of a frequenter to her place, It was just natural for me to feel more at home there, taking her place as an extended piece of mine and basically doing some handywork around when the occasion demanded it.
I never felt that because it's her place, I just had to go sprawl about on the couch, clutching the remote all day, everyday, feeding off her, while she cleaned up around me.
No. I understood we were in a relationship, and that for a relationship to function properly, there has to be some synergy from both parties. And that included shared responsibilities, even on the domestic front.
Thus, whenever I visited, I took out the trash if need be, eat and thereafter clean up the dishes and if there's no food, whip up something in the kitchen if hungry. These are normal things emotionally responsible parties do in healthy relationships. Nothing untoward.
Now, I made a post earlier today, detailing how a lady will frequent her boyfriend's place she's been dating for a while, without as much as deigning to ever assist in cleaning up the mess they both contribute in generating around the apartment. All she ever does, even when on a visit for an extended weekend, is lounge around all day on the bed, remote in hand, flipping away channel after channel, filling up the kitchen sink with dirty dishes, and leaving a trail of litter on her path.
Soon after my post went up, Zukerville went into overdrive, with some netizens, mostly ladies, calling for my head on a platter, misconstruing my stance to mean the lady should slave around in the guy's apartment, and some even going as far as suggesting a correlation between what I said and some ladies' sense of pecuniary entitlement in relationships.
See, I understand we have a problem of comprehension in this country, but I never knew it ran this deep. How a simple post, clear and straightforward as it were, could have been misinterpreted to mean I insinuated female slavery and male entitlement, still astounds me.
Does it mean it's now very rare for people to grasp the import of a simple message, even if it's couched in layman's terms?
For the records, I still insist that any lady that is in a long-term relationship and visits the guy on a regular, even spending weekends, but fails to ever partake in occasionally cleaning up the space she cohabits with the guy while there, is doing herself more harm than good in that relationship. That the guy ain't raising a ruckus doesn't mean he's cool with the whole setup. It's more like the proverbial calm before the storm. Take that to the bank.
We need to start alienating between fighting for female liberation and being downright stupid. You can't be spending almost all your days at a guy's place, but the only thing you ever connects with is the TV, remote and bed. If he's making the bed or cooking, what stops you from washing the dishes you both ate from? How long do you think he'll accept you being a domestic burden to him in his own house before he kicks you to the curb?
Being "woke" (whatever that means) doesn't translate to not being guided by commonsense and responsibility.