The two sides of phone privacy in marriages are currently weighed equally. The percentage of people who support the idea that a partner is not allowed to check their spouse’s phone is large, and the same goes for those who do not support it either—that is, a 50/50 divide. So no matter what we say today, we cannot change the mindset of people easily. This argument will continue to live on while this lifestyle keeps destroying marriages and even destroying the world, and we are practically watching it happen.
I strongly support the idea that there should be 100% openness in a marriage. Privacy should not be allowed to set in between married partners, and even the Bible made it clear that women should submit everything to their husbands, and that is the kind of openness I am talking about. Partners should not restrict each other from accessing their phones. Any form of restriction like that simply means someone is keeping a secret, and secrets will never help the peace of a home.
I have heard some people argue that sometimes it is not that a partner is hiding something on their phone, but that it is unhealthy for a partner to be sneaking into the other partner’s phone. And to that, I will say this: since there is nothing hidden there, why should there be a restriction in the first place? We need to understand these things better because they will help us live better and build stronger relationships.
These days, marriages are scattering every now and then because of a lack of openness, especially when it comes to this phone privacy issue. I will not lie—if we are dating and I discover that the lady is the type who hides her phone and does not allow even the shadow of my hand to get close to it, I would quit the relationship. Even though it is just dating and we are not yet married, I will not condone that kind of behaviour. If she is not sure about us and is having other affairs with other people, she should focus on that instead of hiding things on her phone. The same standard should also be applied to me.
