No one can deny the fact that there are times when you are under intense emotion and can't think straight of what to do to avoid a negative situation. Such moments are when you find yourself under immense tension and burning emotions that want to make you explode and fight back whatsoever is giving you such tension. But taking a moment to reflect can be the most rewarding thing to do in that instance. It is this process of reflection that brings sound and balanced judgement in any situation.
My father told me when I was still a child, that the best way to avoid a situation under emotional tension is to walk away. I witnessed it firsthand on a particular day when my mother engaged my father in a heated argument. It was such an argument that one would be tempted to retaliate to prove a point. My mother was all on my father screaming and shouting on top of her voice with all sorts of negative remarks.
One would think that the next thing the poor man would do was to shut the woman up by hitting her, but instead, my father went into the room, dressed up and left the house without saying a thing to my mother. By the time he returned home, my mother's anger subsided. She was even the one waiting anxiously for her husband to return and eat his dinner. I learned what it takes to be a man that day.
Recently, my wife and I had a disagreement that lasted a week or so. It was the kind of thing that ended up with one of us lying on the floor with an empty stomach in the living room to avoid a negative situation, and I took this route. After that, I understood what it was like to sleep On the cold floor for the first time in our marriage. But it was worth it. Had I not done that, one of us could have ended up receiving medication the next morning.
Learning to avoid a situation under emotional tension is critical to living peacefully with others. Though the disagreement I had with my wife was physical and hot and we couldn't talk to each other for some days, that action of walking away from the scene of the argument saved us from experiencing a negative situation.
However, given that, we still prayed together the next morning and had breakfast before I left for work that day. Ignoring to stop a situation under emotional condition can lead to both emotional and physical harm. You cannot control another person emotions, instead of waiting for someone else to put their emotions under control, you need to put your emotions under control to avoid any negative situation.
There is no set time or set out method of avoiding situations when emotions takes over. Everyone must be the master of their emotions and be able to know when heat is getting beyond normal. Peace is what we all need, hence there is no point in trying to win a situation. Instead, we shouldn't allow it to start in the first place. When emotions are rising and tension flaring, you don't need anyone to tell it's time to walk away.
Some people may say that walking away makes you a weakling, but that's ok. If a situation arises and damages occurred, those who called you a weakling will still be the ones to condemn you for your actions. You need to be emotionally intelligent to know how to respond or react to other people actions. Knowing how and when to respond makes the difference in avoiding situations when emotions takes over. It's practically necessary to know how much you can take and keep that boundary. This will allow you to always be able to make decisive decisions when emotions is on the drivers seat.
It can not be the same for everyone. There are people who are emotionally intelligent than others and they know what to do and when to take action to avoid a situation. Many people can be overly emotional when they think they are offended, and such people usually fall in situations which could have been avoided if their emotions were under control.
Sometimes you need to be quiet to avoid situations, but staying quiet at a place where the situation is about to start is as good as not trying to avoid the situation. Hence, a walk away from the scene is important to calm the nerves and regain emotional balance.
Taming emotions can be difficult, but I've learned to control my emotions and know when to avoid situations at home and the workplace. From My experience, it is much easier for a woman to shout when they are angry. Even my wife scolds me sometimes. I need to control my emotions, and I can keep my feelings to myself. A quality that I think everyone should have.
It may not be easy at first but as time went by you will eventually master it. It is not good to always react angrily with everything someone does that offended you, which can lead to an explosion. I have learned that the best way to deal with emotions is to be quiet, and then walk away. And that's what has been working for me. It should be the responsibility of everyone to learn how to tolerate those strange and uncomfortable feelings we have about people and begin to deal with them sensibly.
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