I think I spend too long waiting. It is not that I just sit around doing nothing in hope, but it is like no matter what I do, I end up waiting for some kind of better times, that just don't seem to arrive. And sure, people talk about "be in the moment" and I actually tend to be, but what happens when the majority of moments are shit?
Be grateful?
It is a funny one, isn't it? Because we are told we should be grateful for our existence, even if we are having a terrible existence. It is a little nonsensical. Like being abused and then having to say thank you to the abuser for the experience. To me, "be grateful" seems like one of those pithy comments people throw out without actually having thought much about what it means, or whether it applies to the current conditions. A lot of grateful, unhappy people out there apparently.
Will better times come?
Sure. It is easy to have better times as a human. All you have to do is pretend that whatever times are being had now, are better. Reframe the moment to be awesome, even when you are in pain, being beaten or incredibly unhappy. It's all good. Obviously if someone isn't enjoying their experience, it is their fault, because they can change their mind at any time and be experiencing deep and profound, life-affirming joy.
Easy. Problems of the world solved.
Next time you have any negative feeling about anything at all, just change your mind about it and love the experience it brings. It may be that your take away order was incorrect, or it could be that your child was just killed in a drone strike. Both are the same, once you change your mind about it.
Don't worry. Be happy.
Am I being facetious?
Yes. Because as much as it might actually be possible to do exactly what I just said and experience both events similarly, it is just not the way the majority of us work, or will ever work. If we spent decades meditating on it, maybe we could, but then, we also wouldn't likely be eating take away or have children. There is an opportunity-cost to learning skills, which is why so few of us really learn anything significant in our lives. Instead, we pretend that what we do learn is significant, even if it is just a regurgitated tidbit of information seen in a documentary about snails.
Snails have thousands of teeth.
Significant.
So hear I am, waiting for something better to happen, with very little hope that anything better will happen. Like I was discussing with my daughter today about superstitions and luck, we are able to make our own luck by being prepared to take advantage of opportunities when they arise. What I didn't say to her though is, I don't think I prepared myself in the right way for what arose in my life. There have been plenty of opportunities, but I didn't have whatever I needed at the time to take them.
The right opportunity will present when ready.
When I'm ready, or the opportunity? Because I am ready for many opportunities, but the ones that come don't seem to be the type of opportunity for me. We are all always prepared for the right opportunity, aren't we? It doesn't mean it is a good opportunity though, or one that is going to satisfy us, but we are always ready for something - even if it isn't much.
So what am I ready for?
Not much it seems in the current environment I am in, so I guess I am going to have to change my environment, or change myself. I am pretty stubborn, so it might well be easier to change the environment. But I guess I should change myself, because that is what all those smart gurus and the idiots that follow them keep repeating.
I guess changing can wait until tomorrow.
Taraz
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