My wife and I are both on "vacation" until the second of January, but up until now, it has been mostly about preparing for Christmas, cleaning up after Christmas, and keeping Smallsteps entertained throughout the days, as she is on vacation until the week after us. I have no idea how parents with jobs are meant to look after kids, considering how often they are home from school.
However, we have a night to ourselves tonight, and though we won't be going to a sex shop in Poland like the picture implies, we will be going out for dinner - which is the Christmas present I received from my wife. We haven't been out to dinner for a while, and I think the last time was somewhere in the spring, as that was the last time Smallsteps spent the night with her grandparents. They are past their mid 70s now, so it is getting harder for them to spend a lot of time with a kid.
Unfortunately, other than booking the table, almost zero planning went into the evening, which means that we have pretty much nothing else to do than the dinner itself. We looked for some kind of live music somewhere, but the only things that were around were already sold out, or not "for us" in genre. Not that there is much happening on a Friday night in this city, a few days before new years eve. I suspect there will be more going on Saturday and Sunday, as Monday is a day off also.
We will probably just end up sitting in a bar or something after dinner for a drink or two, since we are also taking the bus, so I don't have to drive. It might be nice just to spend some time not having to be anywhere and hopefully it will be somewhere quiet. I think most of my days of being in noisy bars are behind me.
I have nothing to wear.
Sounds like a very, very silly statement. And it is. But I haven't really bought any clothing for a long time that is suitable for going out to a nice dinner in and since the stroke, I am a bit heavier than I was, so the clothes I do have are not suitable. My wife on the other-hand always looks great, so now we are one of those couples that walks together and people say "they are a mismatched couple".
It isn't only the clothes, of course.
I am not hugely overweight, but I am short, so anything extra sideways, gets emphasized under a height multiplier. I have also been going to the gym quite regularly, but this has resulted in more muscle in my shoulders, even though I do zero arms, chest, or shoulder exercises. I barely even do back exercises, just some deadlifts, hip thrusts and raised split squats.
My work clothes also have a lot to be desired, as I work in a tech company, and there isn't much of a dress requirement. Again, since the stroke, I have chosen to wear very simple clothing that I don't have to think about at all. Essentially, I wear jeans and a t-shirt, with the color ranging from dark blue, to black. That's about it. The reason I do this is that it is "fine" in terms of what I wear and I don't have to spend any energy thinking about what I am going to wear in the morning. I have about 15 t-shirts, nearly identical.
Sad.
I used to care more about what I wore, though I don't care what people really think of me. However, I am a firm believer that what we wear affects the way we feel and also the way we carry ourselves. Even things like what underwear we are using matters, and if you don't believe me, the next wedding you go to, wear the crappiest pair of underwear you have, and see if it makes a difference.
I am sure for some it won't matter.
Or they say it won't.
There is more to "comfort" than trackpants, because comfort itself is a psychological condition, often triggered by physical circumstances. Wearing "comfortable clothes" like trackpants aren't likely to bring a feeling of comfort when they are worn in a situation like a wedding, where there are also social factors involved. Not many people can live comfortably completely outside of social convention, can they?
Maybe you say you can.
I don't believe you.
But it doesn't matter what I believe about you, you live your own life and face the circumstances you do, as well as the consequences of your actions. For me, I now have to go and find something to throw on so I don't look like a complete pleb next to my beautiful wife.
The chances I am successful, are slim to none.
Have a nice night!
Taraz
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