Presently, I am not in a relationship but, I am looking for some advice to get into one. The last time I was in a relationship was 2018, the year I graduated from a polytechnic in Ogun State, Nigeria and since then, I remained single but this time, I have been looking into getting into one but not so quickly. I feel if someone gets into a relationship very quickly, there are some probabilities that the person would get out of the relationship quickly as well.
So, there is this girl I have been seeing or talking to for some weeks now. Yeah, I like her and my plan is to allow her get very comfortable around me, get very close to her as a friend then probably, she might get to like me more than a friend without having me to ask her to be my girlfriend.
Some of my friends said I should just ask her out immediately and get to know if she may be interested or not but I feel it is not right that way because, why would a girl want to date a guy she is just knowing in some weeks? That's only possible if she is after something from the guy (money maybe) or she probably has a crush on the guy.
The name of the girl I am seeing is Joanna, she is also an engineering student like me which makes it more easy to have time to talk to her since we share some classes together. She studies Agricultural and Bio-resource Engineering and I am studying Mechatronics Engineering. From onset, we don't talk to each in school until I got to meet her in the church I go to, which was when I decided to introduce myself. That was exactly 2 weeks ago or so.
Then last week, I collected her number and had been chatting with her on WhatsApp, not often which is because I am not the used to WhatsApp and she's not often online. Today, I decided to take her for a lunch in one of the restaurant in the school (that's after she said she wasn't able to eat in the morning because the gas in her cooker had finished). I used the opportunity to get to discuss random talks, laugh on some stuffs and get to know each other. She is not bad in conversations but me, I am trying at it. I did my best to keep off my mobile phone while we ate and talked.
So, the thing is: A close friend of mine saw me while I was with her and then later told me that he knows her well and that she is already in a relationship (which I have not confirmed yet). He also said she is only going to come close to me to chop (spend) my money and then leave. Then, I replied to my friend saying; I only wanted to talk to her, and not planning on spending recklessly on a girl that isn't my girlfriend. Moreover, trying to get a girl in a relationship with a single guy is less tasking to a single girl not in a relationship and having large number of guys in competition for her.
What do you think, should I ask her if she is in a relationship or, I should just keep getting close to her and possibly, feelings might grow mutually. I would like to know your thoughts and also get your advice.
So, I would tag some ladies I know on Hive, your response would be well appreciated. 
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