Hey, Girl!
Are you still upset with the fight last night? Are you worried that your man is acting strange day by day? Are you getting into fights more frequently than before or do you find him upset or rude most of the time? Is he avoiding consoling you like before. These might be totally caused by you and may have absolutely nothing to do with him. You unknowingly may have broken his heart and only his flesh is there with you while his soul is lost.
You know the Mars and Venus story right! It's true the men are different than you and are passionate about different things. When you have a loving husband who cares for you, you are among only a few lucky ladies in the world. A loving husband changes your world completely and fills it with only love and passion. But you should understand - these men's act on logic not emotions - I know it sounds strange but that makes a lot of difference. And it also requires you to be careful about a few things which will keep your place secured for ever in the heart of your soul.
Oh, wait!!! Don't get angry so quickly!!!
I know you don't like to take many bits of advice. So let me put the clauses for men first. If your man has not been doing these for you, he is just not good - for any woman. In case he has lately stopped doing these, you will know the reason at the bottom of the page but first of all, few bits of advice for men.
What quality should make you a perfect Husband ???
Honest & Loyal: Man, that's the most important part. Never ever act disloyally to your wife. All your mistakes can be forgiven but not disloyalty. Be honest with her, share your thoughts and do not hide important matters. Talk about your meetings, your colleagues, your friends and share details so that she does not feel like an intruder into your life.
Supportive: Most girls think men stop them growing. It is a mindset that grows in them looking around. In fact, most girls do not get enough support from parents in making a career. You have to be that element of support. Support her in daily chores. Do not feel any work to be meant for girls- if she can do it you too can. Participate in every work at home.
Listener: Be a good listener and listen with the mind, not the ear. Don't just be physically present nodding on the talking. Listen carefully and participate in the conversation. Take her advice and value those. If you don't like those discuss and pursue. Don't just say 'NO' and ignore her. Ladies hate to be ignored.
Unpredictable: Be unpredictable and keep on giving surprises to her - they just love it. Be funny at times, bring her something while returning home. Remember do not follow any pattern- they just hate patterns. Remember a Cadbury Dairy Milk might be a very good option for your first date and you might get a kiss in reward but that is not going to earn you kisses all life. Next time it has to be something else or the girl will get bored.
Give time: Believe it or not this is something which has been around for a long time and girls just imagine that their husbands are not giving them enough time. Don't allow them to feel so. Wherever possible take them with you. Remember she has become the biggest element in your life now - take time out from all shits you used to do earlier and spend those time with her.
Now, girls, you must have given a lot of good thought to your husbands but remember they are human too and have certain requirements. Most men go into a stage of shock after marriage because they just cannot figure out how to deal with your rules. So, be gentle with them and understand their feelings. Here are certain things husbands love to see in their wife.
Don't Nag: Nagging is the most hated element in a woman's character. Trust me, all woman have this problem. Stop nagging or else your husband will feel that you are never happy with him. He will stop loving you and might react strangely in some other issue. You should not keep on complaining all the time and expect your husband to love him. He is sure not to do that. Value and appreciate what he is and how he is.
Don't Compare: Don't compare him with others - your brothers, friends, his brothers, friends. Remember every person is different living in a different situation. They all want to do well and comparing them with others will only make them feel small. Soon they will lose all interest in doing good and your husband will not be the same.
Give Space: Remember one thing - every person has a personal life. Giving space is a mutual act. Allow your husband to mix with family, friends, hobbies, and interests. Let him miss you. This will only increase your love and you will be able to carry on for ever. In return, you too utilize your space and let him miss you. Trust me this occasional drift will double your love.
Share interest: You might feel his football or politics sucks but participate in those. Watch the games together and trust me he will also watch your favorite movie with you. Grow some interest in his hobbies. Know a few facts and surprise him with those. He will have the feeling that his wife likes his interests and will motivate him to like yours. Never force your choice on him but try to develop mutual understanding. Take a glass full of Green water and another full of red water. Take few drops out of both the glasses. now take a drop of red and put on the green. Then take a drop from the green and put on the red. Continue this as long as you can. With each drop, you will find a new color on both the glasses. This is life - the red is you and the green is your husband. If you empty one glass and put half of your water into that your life becomes monotonous and uninteresting.
Keep your Identity: Remember, when both of you loved each other you were not married. Keep that individual living because that attracted him. Also, let him keep his identity that you once loved so much. Don't just create two new individuals who never loved each other. Growing old together is fun when both of you keeps your individual identity.
