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As no one can leave a lonely life without help, promises are then inevitable,as most of the help individuals receive today is as a result of promise.
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So, promise is one thing that serves as a precursor to receiving help. I have promised people and I have also been promised before. But the thing is not every promise that I have promised people has been fulfilled by me and vice versa.
So, to start with, I would say I have broken promises, but the one that pained me so much to have broken was the one I promised my younger brother. After the death of my mum, I promised to send my younger brother to school as my parents had seen me through my own educational pursuit.
Because of this, I believed I should do the same for my younger brother as well and sponsored him at school. Though, I tried to, but I couldn't meet up as I was unable to get a job that could even take care of me not to talk of my younger brother. I couldn't even take a loan to pay his fee as I wasn't working. Though a graduate, I was unemployed.
This would have affected the boy, but thanks to a friend of the family that took up his bills. The man really tried and saw him through his academic journey. Now, the boy is a graduate and he's really doing fine but without me fulfilling my promise which when remembered saddens my heart.
It saddens my heart when I link my unfulfilled promise to my brother with people also failing in their promises to me. Whenever people promised me and faltered in their promises, it used to pain me and I used to feel like, had it been I have fulfilled my own promise to my younger brother, maybe I wouldn't have been experiencing the same.
The worst of the broken promises I've witnessed in my life is from my mum's family, who at her funeral promised us heaven on earth but failed to deliver. It got to a point that most of them put my number on the blacklist and whenever I called them, my call would drop.
It's so serious that when we needed them most, they were not there. But, I couldn't even blame them or get angry at them as I know that they also have their own family that they are also responsible for taking care of.
So, I didn't really hold anything against it. It's that the way they presented it to us was not the best way they should have. Had it been they made us know why they were not able to, maybe we would have understood.
Though, there's lessons I have learnt from their disappointment. In their disappointment, I have learnt that, people can fail you, but you're the one that cannot fail yourself by knowing what you are doing and what you are up to. Also, depending on God has been another of the lessons I have so far learnt.
Though, promise is a debt like we use to say, but to me, there's always a valid reason for a failed promise.
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From what I have said above, when there's no means to help or fulfill promises due to the situation of the time, one may fail to honour his or her word. When one is also overwhelmed with other things of life such as family responsibilities, one may not be able to fulfill his promises to those he had promised.
These and many other things are valid reasons that can affect one that has promise not to fulfill his or her promises. But, we should always be careful when promising and we should not promise more than what we can fulfill.
This is my entry to the week 172, Edition 01 of the weekly Featured contest in the Hive Learners community.
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