I am not that good with my instincts. Moreover, I do not have the ability to recognize a person when I meet them for the first time. I do not think of people negatively I trust people easily. Because I think that people are good until they give me a reason to think of them in other way. You can say that my instincts at recognizing people are often wrong.
Even though I have experience and met many kind of people I still cannot tell if someone has bad intentions. To be honest I want to believe that most people have good intentions. Unfortunately life is very hard when you cannot recognize peoples intentions and it could cause negative consequences. Life has taught me lessons for trusting wrong people.
There have been times when I decided to trust someone just because they behaved nicely with me. Their the way they spoke, my gut feeling told me that they were honest and trustworthy. As time passed I discovered that some people who were nice to me at first, they broke my trust and took advantage of my kindness.
I had lent money to these people and each one of them never returned my money. Instead, they filed a false complaint against me that I took money from them. I don't know if I can ever forgive them, I have lost almost 5 lakh taka. I have a wife and two young daughters and it was a tough time for us. We faced financial issue because of my one mistake. These experiences were very depressing for me. They taught me lessons that I should not trust someone so easily.
But there were some nice people who has helped me during my hard phase and trusting them was not a wrong decisions. Not everyone has bad intentions, everyone deserves kindness. We should never judge someone without knowing them fully, also we should be cautious before trusting someone easily. Because every decision in our life has consequences.
Even though I had a bad experiences I still try to see the good in people, the only difference is that I do not trust someone easily anymore. I have gradually improved my ways to recognize people, I think my instincts at recognizing people also got better than before. I try to notice a persons actions than their words. I have learned that a persons character reveals itself over time. So, I try to observe people slowly and not to judge people quickly. I think everyone should do the same there is no good in judging people, for their appearance or the way they talk.
If my instincts at recognizing people turn out to be wrong I will accept it, showing ego will do no good for me. If I am wrong about someone, I will try to learn from my mistakes. These are reminders that my instincts are not perfect. Anyway，experiences are more reliable guides when it comes to understanding people.
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