They say a fruit doesn't fall far from its tree: same thing goes for parents and their children, there are always unique similarities and patterns. A child will always pick certain attributes and character of the parents (or guardian) because they are the first set of humans to live and interact with for the first few years on earth. How to speak, how to react, choice of clothes and music and food, etc. Children tend to always emulate what ever they see their parents do and what they hear their parents say. Have you seen or come across children that cuss a lot? They do it like an adult. I have one close to my house, his mouth is so sharp and lousy: he doesn't spare his friends from cussing. He got it from his mom, she comes home late at night and the first few things she does it to shout at her kids, beat it threaten them and that's exactly what her sons do whenever they are with their friends.
About my parents relationship and how they go about how they interact, converse and show love is quite simple, more like many African parents, you get😂. Both my parents are meek, would say more like introverts, they prefer to be on their own most of the time indoor. I spent more time with my mom than with my dad because of their work difference, dad was a government worker and his presence can vary based on work shifts. My mom has been the best for some reason, she is the exact and perfect half of my dad: filling all his loopholes as much as she could. She made loving dad easy for us, she knew early that she will be the one to spend time with us more so she always seemed prepared for it. Dad, my man always trying to keep up with every moment he couldn't be with us, used to appear strict but I, as the last born knew how to make him soft (last born charm😅).
My parents relationship has always been an healthy one, I don't how they do it but they always seem to be in sync: definitely had their disagreements countless times but never made it obvious or stay long. I love and had to learn how to argue without having to shout or use harsh words from them, stating their points calmly and listening to the other person. Though they don't really know how to express love to themselves openly (many African parents lack in that part) but one could tell the love is there and genuine. Growing up, I found out that my parents would prefer to stay up at night to discuss matters, I guess that's a good time to thrash out issues.
Well, no one is perfect. My parents relationship is good but, I see just few parts of it that could have been better. Their introvert lifestyle gave some advantages but still affected me a lot in some areas like being very confident, outspoken, connecting with new people, going all out for what I love. I grew up and it was hard for me to do all of those things I mentioned but I made sure to work on them and never let them become my limitations in life.
The house you come from will always tell on you, good or bad. You only have to observe well enough to pick out the bad ones that has rubbed off on you. I like my parents relationship but I would want a better one than theirs for myself. If theirs is good, then mine could even be better, aim higher.
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