Hello everyone and Happy Sunday,
It has been a beautiful day indeed, filled with unforgettable memories of love and affection.
It is often said that love is a beautiful thing, only when it is expressed with the right person and it's been reciprocated. Love often time is mistaken with lust and infatuation, the feelings of lust and infatuation often times tend to appear like love, which is not, rather having a deeper understanding of love, lust and Infatuation will deliver us from some unnecessary heartbreaks, and prevent us from falling into the wrong trap with the mindset that we are in love.
Love is a choice. It's easy to choose love when things are going really well. And when insecurities and fears come up, choosing love is where our greatest growth happens. Love is not stagnant rather it grows, only when we permit it. Love is also inward, and is expressed outwardly through our charater, actions, behavior etc. We tend to look for love from our friends, not realizing that love is actually within us, The important fact about Love is that Love is about loving ourselves first and not seeking someone else to complete us. It is from the abundance of love in our storeroom can we share it with others. The quality of our love life is a direct reflection on how much (or little) we care for and love ourselves. The more we love ourselves, the more we attract people who will love us just as much as we love ourselves.
Lust and infatuation are usually fleeting and short-lived they don't tend to turn into love. But when we are in love, we will have intense feelings for that person and that love grows bringing about attraction and connection to them on the level of mind, body and soul. This is believed to be a perception and experience of love, thus love Is a feeling. Oftentimes it's not easy to define our feelings for others especially in romantic feelings, which can leave in a haze.
Falling a prey of infatuation or lust often time is an unrealistic expectations from movies onto our life, and when reality is showcased it becomes so difficult to know if we're in love. Having strong feelings for someone can make us think we're in love when we're actually lusting or infatuating. It is necessary for us to understand lust and infatuation:
Lust is a physical emotion and reaction to a person, and their physical appearance. Lust tends to be short-lived and is more about immediate gratification. Also an infatuation is an intense feeling which happens when we are attracted to a person's appearance or attracted to him. Although Infatuation happens early and tends to become obsessive. When a person is infatuated,
Love is a deep and abiding affection for someone. It is characterized by a feeling of connection and intimacy. Loving people care about each other's well-being and want to be there for each other through thick and thin. Love is often based on shared values, interests, and goals.
There are certain attributes that can be seen for love to be said to be genuine love and not lust nor infatuation. It is said that true love does not hurt, it is patience, it is kind, and it does not delight in anything that brings pains, that is my true definition of love.
Some ways to identify lust and infatuation
They Become Jealous And Possessive. They are always worried about insignificant things. They also panic when about the slightest thing, a state of infatuation always brings jealousy and insecurity in common issues because they are not confident in how they feel about you.
They See And Expect Perfection. Infatuation leads them to believe that they have found the perfect person and a perfect relationship. They can only see their outward best qualities, such as their appearance, their success, or their talents, they become blind to some weaknesses, insecurities, and flaws, only because of what they want to get. In subsequent times, when disagreements and arguments arise within the relationship, they feel like things have gone wrong and they give up easily.
They Feel Tired And Alone. Being infatuated with someone is all-consuming. They become exhausted due to constant worry about what they think, they become stressed about things not working out.
Love is the only thing that grows in the course of time, it endures, tolerates love is selfless, it stands the test of time while lust and infatuation is always self centered as it's often pulled down by the challenges of life. Lust and infatuation may be mistaken to be love if not deeply understood because they look similar.
Thank you for reading.