With each day that passes by, it just feels like the concept of getting married just keeps on losing its value. Almost like the older we get, the more we realize that maybe getting a husband or a wife just isn't worth it like our parents made it look like when we were growing up.
The other day, I recently made friends with a lady, and while we were getting to know each other, she mentioned to me that if things do go her way and she ends up becoming successful in life, she plans on not getting married and would rather adopt a kid, because apparently to her, all she needs a partner for is his money and to make babies.
Which brings me to my first question. Is that really what marriage is all about, or is there more to it?
I also have another female friend who had texted me one night around 1am, crying about her relationship and how she feels like her boyfriend no longer values her because she's been living with him for a while now, something we Nigerians call 'See finish'.
Which brings me to my second question. How are we expected to get married if we can't even bear living with someone we claim to love for a few months?
All of these things and a lot more are reasons why it seems to me that maybe this current generation just might have a different plan and won't follow the usual procedure the people before it does.
And I know that just because a few of my friends have a different perspective on the issue doesn't mean that the majority of the people our age also feel that way, but I actually do think they do. As a matter of fact, I feel like the main reason many people here even decide to get married is just to please their parents and guardians.
Most people would prefer remaining single and not being “tied” to one person for the rest of their lives. And this is why after a while they begin having troubles in their marriages, which quickly leads to divorce, because as much as they loved that person in the beginning, living forever with them just isn't something they can live with.
But again, I could be wrong and stand to be corrected. This is just how I feel about the issue, and honestly, I hope I'm wrong.