I have always try to see the best in everything around me and believing so much in people, trusting and thinking that people should just act better. My expectations on others have caused me pains and disappointments, maybe some of us find it difficult to stop expecting so much from people, especially the ones closer to us, probably the ones we feel that they should have known and understood us even when no one does.
Though expectations are natural for humans but over expectation has caused many people pains and I inclusive which is the sole aim why I feel,if possible I should change the way I expect things from people.
Here are my reasons :
Peace of mind: presently my mental health is all that matters to me,over expecting from people is stressful and hurting, when I get disappointed at the end of the day,I get uneasy and it steals my peace and it not what I need for myself.
Healthy relationship: expecting much from people can lead to frustrations and anger which will give place to resentments ,this can have a negative effects on relationships causing relationship issues.
Personal growth: I believe when I expect less from people I can develop confident and a stronger self-esteem which I will always look inward for self validation.
How to change my high expectations on people.
Expecting less from others and expecting more from myself: I need to understand that they are human beings and being human they have limitations and they are not entitled to my needs.
Accepting that no one is perfect : People have their weaknesses just like they have their strength.
To be companionate: By being reasonable and knowing that everyone cannot be me. I should be able to practice empathy and know that people have their own reasoning and they view things differently.also that there may be challenges that hindered them from meeting my expectations.
Focusing and prioritizing on what brings me happiness: When am busy prioritizing myself it gives me no room to cry over others inability to meet my expectations.therefore to take responsibility for myself and my joy.,i should be able to grow above relying on people for my happiness.
To let go easily I should be intentional about letting things go and i know my life will be much easier full of fun and save from hurts,pains and disappointment.
Thank you #qc for the opportunity to express myself.
