I think I can take care of people on my own, but it is often foolish to expect the same kind of care in return after caring. For me, it is good to take care of someone out of my own free will, to look out for them, or to be there for them in their bad times. However, if you expect the same behavior from another person in return, you often have to be disappointed. So the less you expect from people, the more you can keep your mind calm.
I personally think that a true relationship is beautiful only when there is no calculation. If I help a friend when he is in need, then I should not do it out of the thought that he will help me when I need him in the future. Because life does not always work the same way. Today I may be able to stand by someone, but in the future that person may not be in a position to be by my side.
However, this does not mean that people's behavior does not matter to us. Rather, it is understood from people's behavior how much they care about us. If someone only thinks of us when they need us, but is always away when we need them, then you can gradually understand the matter. In such a relationship, it is better to lower your expectations.
I think that people often evaluate not a person, but his ability. If you are skilled in something, can help someone, give good advice or solve a problem, then many people will come to you. But when you are of no use to them, their interest may also decrease. Then you understand how sincere the relationship was.
There have been some experiences in my life where I have given importance to someone from my own place, but later I realized that the matter was one-sided. Although it felt bad at first, later I took it as a lesson in life. Now when I care for someone, I do it out of my own feelings. I don't think much about what I got in return.
I believe that there are definitely real people. There are also people who value you as a person, not for any benefit to you. They will try to be there for you in good times as well as in bad times. Such a person is more valuable than many acquaintances.
So for me, the most important thing in a relationship is the balance of sincerity and expectations. Love people, care for them, and be there for them when needed. But don't build relationships based on what you'll get in return. Because the lower your expectations, the less disappointment you'll have. And those who truly value you will be there for you without any self-interest.
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