A certain girl divorced her husband. More precisely, the husband left her. The reason can be different, the focus of my attention now is not in it, but that almost immediately after the break the girl began to publish photos from nightclubs and restaurants, where she supposedly has a lot of fun. She takes pictures in the toilets, praising not only the plumbing of this drinking establishment, but also her numerous outfits for these parties. We will add to this picture a child and the age when a person should already have grown into a permanent meeting with the music of a torn-eardrum and a cheap cocktail of low-grade alcohol and sweet syrup, with stew, as it happens in nightclubs. What we have?
If there are people who will say that this is the happiness of a free girl, then I am ready to oppose my point of view to them.
The state of any mental healthy person after parting is difficult. And even if a person has bored you for a long time, and even if there is no love for a long time - you still experience, because the attachment still does not disappear by itself. Adolescents in such cases are too colorful to demonstrate their rich life in social networks to their former partner. Fortunately, now there is an opportunity to show that you do not wash the old photos with tears, where you are together and do not look at sobbing romantic films, zazhevyvaya snot candy. But the key word here is adolescents. When an adult is engaged in such circus, it's funny. It is better to behave in accordance with common sense and in harmony with the desires of your body, but now he does not want a new man from the bar, but cry and part from the separation experience.
But how can you disappear from social networks for a while to analyze your mistakes in past relationships and to fill the emptiness in your soul if your former one now has to cry, moan, wail over how happy you are already? In a couple of days, how did you part. It forces me to two reasons: a) you have been enslaved by the former all this time, and maybe he kept you locked up in the cellar and committed violent acts with you that, finally, when he left you, you smeared his heels with oil and rushed to the night club / restaurant / bar to celebrate the beginning of a new life; b) you think that you cheated the whole world and your psychological age - three years (you can say, without even checking for an entertaining VKontakte application). Parting in the last version is the best time to rethink your life, your views on yourself, on the attitude towards people, towards men, just read books.
After parting, a void is formed. This is the place where this person was in your soul. Nature does not tolerate emptiness. The lower the person, the more senseless the person will fill these voids. The best thing you can think up in this case is to spend time on yourself, on a constructive dialogue with a close person, on walking with pleasant and positive people, on learning something new. What of this is present in the nightclub? With a close person, the conversation can only take place in the toilet, because in the hall where music rattles, only the beginning of the sentence is clearly heard. It is clear that there is no room for a heart-rending conversation. The only thing that can draw out the evening is alcohol, which will not make it easier, but will lead to a new humiliation: drunk calls to the former with the call / offer to sleep / offer to drink / get together again, etc. or to a joint dream with an unfamiliar and dubious person. People with a rich inner world and interesting work, do not spend their lives every weekend, beating off the heels on the dance floors and eating in the dark food under the greasy looks of the broken peasants who came to live on the ruins of drunken Babskii grief.
There are also exits to such places, and it is even interesting to look at it and take part, but to degrade every weekend .. Why should not you love yourself that way?
So, that one day, waking up in the morning after the next Saturday's binge, do not want to hang yourself from universal longing and loneliness, we must remember:
If the former has left, he is unlikely to return the young lady, who has already tired all subscribers of her colorful photos with "a little bit more and straight into paradise" life. As if he left, because you before that little went to clubs or little fotkalis.
do not spend all your free time on burning life in the darkness of the dance floors of clubs and restaurant clubs, otherwise one day you will be so beaten to the ground by an inner emptiness that will not seem too small.
there are children, it is better to give them all the time, they too are experiencing a break and they need a strong support next to them.
and, in general, smart people understand that such a life is caused by grief, not happiness. Do not show grief. Cultivate happiness in yourself. No one but you will help it. All that is described above - a fake, thus the soul can not be cured.
Parting - it's time to work with yourself and learn to enjoy time alone, even on weekends - then your glass will be half full.
