Greetings community, happy weekend everyone. The topics @galenkp proposes invite us to search within ourselves. We usually don't stop to think about ourselves or analyze our behavior and ways of acting.
Therefore, I want to address the topic of an attitude I've developed over the years of blaming myself and being overly harsh on myself on certain occasions. I've never punished myself for not achieving a goal or suffering a defeat. I'm not a perfectionist, nor do I care much about society's expectations. It could be that my parents never put excessive pressure on me to achieve any goals and were always there to support me and offer their unconditional love in any situation, positive or adverse.
My problem with myself is that I tend to trust people, and on many occasions I've been hurt. I always say this will be the last time, but despite this, somehow, I don't know how I manage it; I keep trusting, and the disappointments and disillusionment continue to hurt me.
When that happens, I attack myself mercilessly. I'm offended because it's said that man is the only animal that never trips over the same stone twice, because he reasons and has a conscience. This is the mildest thing I can say to myself. It even makes me want to attack myself.
I feel stupid, and of course, sadness invades me. It can raise my blood pressure and trigger a nervous system disorder.
I've tried to be different, but I can't, because it hurts me more to think I could make mistakes and not trust the person who needs your trust and support.
I think that with age, one accepts things better and understands that everyone acts based on their experiences. That's why I now understand better that what's right for me doesn't have to be right for someone else, and therefore, the relationship reaches a point where it doesn't damage this principle.
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A few years ago, I began trying to be as kind and understanding with myself as I always try to be with others. I realized that the offenses I subjected myself to hurt me as much, if not more, than the disappointments I suffered.
Analyzing things from different angles, I realized there was nothing wrong with trusting; my main problem was that I had to set a boundary, one where I could feel good and not be hurt if people acted differently than I thought they should.
Thank you all for your support. Thank you @gslenkp for sharing my experience and, from it, telling everyone that we shouldn't mistreat ourselves, because we humans make mistakes, and in life we can suffer because we are mistreated by various circumstances. That's more than enough.
@galenkp proposes invite us to search within ourselves. We usually don't stop to think about ourselves or analyze our behavior and ways of acting.
@gslenkp for sharing my experience and, from it, telling everyone that we shouldn't mistreat ourselves, because we humans make mistakes, and in life we can suffer because we are mistreated by various circumstances. That's more than enough.