LET'S INTERACT

It's often said that humans are social beings. That implies that they strongly yearn for interactions with fellow humans and other beings or things in their environment. Even the reserved ones amongst us still craves interactions. I happen to belong to the reserved class. It might not be very obvious now, thanks to self development.

Over the years I have worked on getting better in some certain aspects of life, being a bit more interactive happens to be one of those aspects.

The younger me was an extreme secluded being. During festivities, where tradition demands that we gather with other members of the extended family under a roof, I do get lost, wallowing in a lone company; interacting with just me and me.

Other relatives do forget that I was ever around. That's to tell you how critical my case was. Not for my ever caring elder sister, I would've been observing compulsory dry fasts during those periods. It use take a reminder from her, for the food server to keep my portion of food for me. If not.......; Your guess is as good as mine.

My elder sister

Despite my seeming unsociable nature, I use to and I still crave interactions with other people. When the ice and the tension between me and another person eventually breaks and we get vibing, my sweetness do mesmerize the other party.

I always get that reaction of;

"oh! I never knew that you were this sweet".

And I'll often reply, sarcastically with;

"Have I now become diabetic?"

My subtle sarcasms would yet validate my pleasantness.

By first hand experience, I can boldly assert that;

both social and unsocial people do craves interactions with fellow humans.

We all want to connect with others.
Don't we?

That would imply that interactions among humans are inevitable. In fact it's the very act and art of living.
What else is living, if not interacting?

Based on this, there are different pieces of advice on who to interact with and on how to interact, especially when and the interaction is a close one; the kind that leads to friendship.

You'll commonly hear that you should make friends with those who adds value to your life. I agree with that, but it is not as simple as we make it sound. Is it?

To most of us, a person that adds value to our life would be that person who can hold an intelligent discussion, that financial guru, that crypto lord or that intellectual juggernaut etc, but is that all it is to value?

How about.....?

How about that person who always listens to you while you offload all that's on your mind; the exasperations and the gratifications; the tortures and the rapture; the vices and the versas? He/she listens, even if he/she doesn't have a meaningful contribution. How about such a person?
How about the one that have a way of making you laugh, just to take your mind off the ills in this blue marble planet?
How about the person that would stick his/her neck out for you any day?
How about those that would turn up for you and for anything that concerns you, even if they don't understand much of what you do?
Aren't those virtues part and parcel of value.

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My one cent

Just before you ditch friends, jump ships, collapse bridges;
before you divorce from that friendship, I think you should have a rethink of what value really is.

I might not know many things, but I know this;