Etiquette and manners are the most essential things that build up our character and make us human. One can't buy it or just grab it out from anywhere, one needs a proper upbringing and gradual mental development. If you have lackings in this part of your life then you are sure to get bad impressions from people. To be honest, I always try my best to keep this in check, I can't afford to see anyone having a bad impression of me because I have done something wrong, misunderstandings are a common thing to create such disputes, that's another topic. So let's move on to some of the experiences I think people should be careful about, one of the basic things that we all know but don't try to work on effectively.
Often we take financial help from our friends and family, we give them a time frame and later we show ignorance. Not everyone but I have seen many doing such things, yeah one can fall into a deeper problem that is acceptable but you gotta explain that properly, and see if the person who helped you can accept that or not. Lemme share a very recent one that made me offended and here I am writing because of that,
Yesterday conversation:
He: Bro, can you please remind me the amount I had taken from you? Please call me tomorrow.
Me: $$ (told the amount in a message, nothing else)
He: Ok bro.
This is someone senior to me, I have enough respect for him, he was into some deep shit to take that help from me, and I don't regret that. But with time he kept on going deeper, for which he couldn't return me the money even after months, that wasn't the deal when he asked me. Even after that big amount, he asked me multiple times but as I was offended I didn't help, last month when I saw him in some real trouble I did help again and he had promised to return that within two or three days but it has been a month too, hehe.
So think about it this way, my impression of him for financial matters would not change, I will never deal with him ever again, who is not determined by his words and can surely lack some other characteristics too.
While being with a lot of friends and classmates or any gathering we do often tease someone, make fun of them, some may take that as fun and lightly while someone may also get offended and quiet. Also, this kinda tease and fun has some limits too, which varies from person to person, our bonding, and places. When we would see that someone got quiet due to that fun or tease we should not do that again. It often leads to conflict or a scratch to the bonding.
This one is the most important and crucial one that we all should possess. When someone shares you a secret with trust then you should never ever disclose this to anyone. It is said that our deepest pain gets relief when shared but to whom? We did share and people kept discussing it even more to make the situation more terrible, secrets are the sensitive ones that we don't want to get public usually. Personally, I don't see many people around me worth of keeping my secret safe within themselves, keeping aside their judgments and tendency of sharing knowingly or unknowingly and that's why I keep my things within me. If someone shares anything with me, I try my best to keep it hidden and as mentioned I will take them to my grave with me.
There are also many more crucial etiquette and manners that we all should follow, otherwise it may hamper relations with our friends and family badly. Especially that financial matter is a very crucial one which leads to chaos easily.
