Nowadays, we do see the battle of having 50/50 contributions in everything between male and females. To be honest, I never felt everything should be equal or can be. Even if we try to make every responsibility we are to take divided into equal, they won't. But yeah, things that are basic and can be divided equally should be like that, there shouldn't be any discrimination. Wait a moment, I know these are very controversial topics, not that I am trying to start one.
For example, if we talk about a relationship, can we divide everything 50/50? Say that both of us have equal effort? I won't put in more than you do? Does this make sense or is it even possible to measure? In some cases, one would make more efforts and in some the other would do so. Now if we start to measure everything then it would end up destroying. I do feel like it's never 50/50 between me and my partner. In some cases we are 70/30 and in some 30/70, sometimes they gets 60/40 or 0/100 as well its absolutely fine. We can't be the same at everything, we don't have maturity, understanding, or that expertise. There are a few aspects that she understands better than me, I contribute less, she does the whole part and in some cases I am the one to pull that all alone. Not everything can be measured in 50/50.
The most important part is to realize those unequal situations, acknowledge and respect them as they are. Also try to feel those efforts that your partner is pulling off to make things easier to realize and understand. How to do that?
If I am to talk about mine, it's the weekend, so I鈥檓 home. To spend some time, I tried to help her in cooking, that's what I do when I am available. So, when I was helping, I got to realise how stressful it is to cook, no matter how easy it feels to someone how to do it regularly but yet, you gotta feel the stress that they have accepted and feels nothing absurd. Cleaning the house everyday, organising things. When you do that for one day, you got to realise why everything can be distributed 50/50. Like I can't put in as much as she can in household chores, nor she can do as much as in the outside ones. So both of us got our priorities and areas to focus on and fulfill them as they are required. Fortunately, we do acknowledge each other鈥檚 works and contribution, respect them as they should be, and never in the battles of how much she did or I, we know its never gonna be 50/50.
So yeah, it's never 50/50 in everything, not to get into controversies with this, certain areas men gotta put in more effort and contribute whereas in some cases the women get to put in more. In both cases they get equally respected and acknowledged.
