Some time ago I had taken care of a boy from an orphanage. I offered him a room in my apartment on every day free from school (agreed with the orphanage - on school days Oskar had to be back there).
Now Oskar has turned 18 and as an adult can decide for himself. His first adult decisions - in my humble opinion - were not very well thought through. He:
- dropped from school
- resigned from a not-too-bad part time job
- chose to live “here and there”, with some unspecified friends, rather that at my place (he can't stay at the orphanage as an adult)
In all three points my advice had been contrary to his choices….
Oskar has keys to my apartment, lives “somewhere” and is not able to tell me if/when he plans to return “home”. Any slightest suggestion that either the keys are returned or I know his whereabouts, is met with dropping the call or blocking me as Messenger/What’sUp contact. Still, I trust him and show it by not changing my locks. Stupid me?
My line is that he is not a "bad guy" - I don't think he could rob me. But he lives the moment and is very absent minded. My worry is not him abusing my trust, but simply losing the keys.
Parents, what say you? Mind that I do not have my own children so Oskar is my very first attempt at “parenthood”.
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