Hola amigas y amigos de Holos & Lotus. La vida cotidiana duele llevarnos a una velocidad vertiginosa. Al menos esa percepción me inunda a cada rato. Hacemos proyectos, planificamos actividades, nos proponemos metas, etc.
Sin embargo, no siempre podemos cumplir todo lo que nos proyectamos. A veces las situaciones cotidianas demandan un sobre esfuerzo que no teníamos previsto o simplemente, el agotamiento en determinadas etapas de nuestro ciclo de vida es tal que sentimos que vamos en picada o cuando menos que no avanzamos.
Ello puede desanimarnos. La frustración es algo inherente al ser humano y debemos aprender a lidiar con ella. Creo que el no poder manejar la frustración puede hacernos caer en una espiral en la que lo más poderoso que solemos experimentar son vivencias negativas.
Hablo desde mi experiencia personal, tan distinta de la experiencia de los cientos de millones de seres humanos que cohabitan este planeta.
Pero creo que la satisfacción o insatisfacción de nuestras necesidades ejerce una poderosa influencia en que experimentemos emociones como la rabia, la tristeza, la alegría o el miedo.
Ese tipo de ideas ocupaban mis pensamientos una vez leída la iniciativa de
@rosahidalgo sobre las formas en que podíamos con los bloqueos.
Yo también he transitado por situaciones en las que me he sentido agotado, enfadado, triste, frustrado, inseguro, también alegre, ilusionado para emprender nuevos proyectos.
La vida humana está repleta de ese tipo de situaciones existenciales. Lo importante desde mi punto de vista no es evitar transitar por ellas.
Lo importante es desarrollar herramientas que nos permitan sobreponernos a ellas si son negativas y generar situaciones que favorezcan en surgimiento de vivencias positivas.
Se dice fácil ¿Verdad? Hay que estar en un estado emotivo negativo para poder hablar en esos términos, me dirás. Entiendo, sin ánimo de repetirme, yo he transitado por ahí, muchas veces.
Sin embargo, vale el esfuerzo pensar en las ventajas que nos trae intentar crearnos condiciones favorables, emocionalmente hablando. Una gran amiga diría: "Aprender a pintarse ilusiones".
¿Como me pinto ilusiones? Bueno, primero he de decir que he aprendido a reconocer los estados emocionales que experimento. Solo identificandolos bien puedo trabajarlos, encontrar sus causas y buscar cambiarlos.
Por ejemplo, he transitado por estados anímicos en los que he perdido momentáneamente el nivel de motivación que orientaba mi comportamiento. Esto después de algún tipo de frustración. Las cosas no siempre salen como uno espera, aún cuando nos hayamos esforzado mucho.
Concretamente hablo de que he vivido trabajando en un proyecto y cuando ha sido sometido a valoración por parte de algún tipo de experto, resulta que tiene aún varias falencias. Puede incluso que el orgullo me ciegue y no acepte las críticas de los "expertos".
Entonces, ¿que hago? En ese caso he aprendido a tomarme un tiempo para "enfriar las ideas". Espero que pase al menos un día para volver sobre ello. Sin embargo, no siempre la motivación está ahí para apoyarme. Salgo a buscarla entonces.
He creado una especie de ancla que me predispone a retomar la senda en la que venía trabajando. En realidad utilizo varios "trucos". Suelo observar el amanecer por ejemplo. ¿Has reparado en ese momento en que se pierde la luz de las estrellas para dar paso a los primeros pasos del Sol?
Es un instante que simboliza la fe en uno mismo. Lo asocio con la voluntad de salir adelante, de salir de la oscuridad sin importar lo que nos cueste.
Otro anclaje que utilizo es escuchar música que me motive. Tengo varios temas al alcance de un clic. Por ejemplo: "Cantares" de Joan Manuel Serrat, "Das más" de Buena Fe o "Blessed" de Berert.
De igual modo, si me noto alterado, dominado por la ansiedad trato encontrar la senda de la tranquilidad. Para ello utilizo música clásica, piano preferentemente.
Otro elemento que me ayuda a pintarme ilusiones es acudir a esas personas que tiene la capacidad de energizar nuestra existencia. Yo les busco y ellas o ellos lo saben. Saben que les busco por sus poderes "mágicos".
Por ejemplo, tengo amigos que poseen la capacidad de hacerme reír hasta en las situaciones menos indicadas para ello. A ellos recurro cuando me siento triste.
Cuando me siento desanimado, recurro a aquellos que siempre están inmersos en proyectos profesionales. Escucharles me motiva a retomar los míos. También Cudo a aquellos que siempre están ideando "saliditas", viajes, reuniones.
En fin, estas son algunas de las acciones que realizo para combatir mis bloqueos. No son la receta para la felicidad, simplemente son los que he encontrado yo. Quien sabe si leyendo en la comunidad encuentre otros que puedan funcionar también.
Agradecido por tu compañía hasta el final te dejo un abrazo de amigo.
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English Version
Hello friends of Holos & Lotus. Everyday life hurts to take us at breakneck speed. At least that perception floods me all the time. We make projects, we plan activities, we set goals, etc.
However, we can't always accomplish everything we set out to do. Sometimes daily situations demand an overexertion that we did not foresee or simply, the exhaustion in certain stages of our life cycle is such that we feel that we are going downhill or at least that we are not advancing.
This can discourage us. Frustration is something inherent to human beings and we must learn to deal with it. I believe that not being able to handle frustration can make us fall into a spiral in which the most powerful thing we usually experience are negative experiences.
I speak from my personal experience, so different from the experience of the hundreds of millions of human beings who cohabit this planet.
But I believe that the satisfaction or dissatisfaction of our needs has a powerful influence on whether we experience emotions such as anger, sadness, joy or fear.
Those kinds of ideas occupied my thoughts once I read
I have also gone through situations in which I have felt exhausted, angry, sad, frustrated, insecure, also happy, excited to undertake new projects.
Human life is full of these types of existential situations. The important thing from my point of view is not to avoid going through them.
The important thing is to develop tools that allow us to overcome them if they are negative and to generate situations that favor the emergence of positive experiences.
It is easy to say, isn't it? You have to be in a negative emotional state to be able to speak in those terms, you will tell me. I understand, without wanting to repeat myself, I have been there, many times.
However, it is worth the effort to think about the advantages of trying to create favorable conditions for ourselves, emotionally speaking. A great friend of mine would say: "Learn to paint illusions".
It can discourage us. Frustration is something inherent to human beings and we must learn to deal with it. I believe that not being able to handle frustration can make us fall into a spiral in which the most powerful thing we tend to experience are negative experiences.
I speak from my personal experience, so different from the experience of the hundreds of millions of human beings who cohabit this planet.
But I believe that the satisfaction or dissatisfaction of our needs has a powerful influence on whether we experience emotions such as anger, sadness, joy or fear.
Those kinds of ideas occupied my thoughts once I read
I too have gone through situations in which I have felt exhausted, angry, sad, frustrated, insecure, also joyful, excited to undertake new projects.
Human life is full of these types of existential situations. The important thing from my point of view is not to avoid going through them.
The important thing is to develop tools that allow us to overcome them if they are negative and to generate situations that favor the emergence of positive experiences.
However, it is worth the effort to think about the advantages of trying to create favorable conditions for ourselves, emotionally speaking. A great friend of mine would say: "Learn to paint illusions".
How do I paint illusions? Well, first I have to say that I have learned to recognize the emotional states that I experience. Only by identifying them well can I work on them, find their causes and seek to change them.
For example, I have gone through states of mind in which I have momentarily lost the level of motivation that guided my behavior. This is after some kind of frustration. Things don't always turn out the way you expect them to, even when you have tried very hard.
I am specifically talking about the fact that I have lived working on a project and when it has been subjected to assessment by some kind of expert, it turns out that it still has several shortcomings. I may even be blinded by pride and not accept the criticisms of the "experts".
So what do I do? In that case I've learned to take some time to "cool my heels". I wait at least a day to come back to it. However, the motivation is not always there to support me. I go out to find it then.
I have created a kind of anchor that predisposes me to return to the path I have been working on. I actually use several "tricks". Have you noticed that moment when the starlight is lost to give way to the first steps of the sun?
It is an instant that symbolizes faith in oneself. I associate it with the will to move forward, to get out of the darkness no matter what it costs us.
Another anchor I use is listening to music that motivates me. I have several songs at the click of a button. For example: "Cantares" by Joan Manuel Serrat, "Das más" by Buena Fe or "Blessed" by Berert.
In the same way, if I feel upset, dominated by anxiety, I try to find the path of tranquility. For this I use classical music, preferably piano.
Another element that helps me to paint illusions is to turn to those people who have the ability to energize our existence. I look for them and they know it. They know that I seek them out because of their "magical" powers.
For example, I have friends who have the ability to make me laugh even in the most inappropriate situations. I turn to them when I'm feeling sad.
When I feel discouraged, I turn to those who are always immersed in professional projects. Listening to them motivates me to take up mine. I also turn to those who are always thinking up "outings", trips, meetings.
Finally, these are some of the actions I take to combat my blocks. They are not the recipe for happiness, they are simply the ones I have found. Who knows if by reading in the community I may find others that can work as well.
Thank you for your company until the end, I leave you a friendly hug.
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