We are not for everyone...

Has it happened to you? ... Rejection hurts, it burns us to the skin and makes us doubt even what we call ourselves. Rejection does not speak of our value but of what the other cannot give.

Of course, that doesn't mean that we don't care or that they're missing out. I'm not going to tell them that it doesn't matter because the truth is that rejection does hurt, but I've learned that what's important to me is that someone else's NO is either a diagnosis of who I am, it's a filter and IT's NOT a retaining wall and understanding this allows me not to suffer unnecessarily. Our value is ours, but let's not stay and live from there. Because that's not where they don't see us.

That's like begging for attention or forcing a bond where there was already rejection, that's emotional neglect. It's even worth convincing someone that we're worth it.

We have to learn to differentiate the I hurt from the I'm no good for anything. We must have the courage to nip in the bud the profile of those people who reject us.

I think it's the best way to get back to our center to remember that we are good. In addition, in this way we avoid handing over control of our lives to people who do not know us thoroughly.

Accepting rejection, even if it hurts, puts us on the path to a solution.More self-love, and more self-awareness.

Of course, it hurts that they don't choose you, even if inside you pretend to be strong and we tell ourselves that we don't care. That rejection is life pushing us out of where we have left to come back to you.

I have withdrawn from where I have been rejected, with fear, with uncertainty, trembling But I have withdrawn, I left never to return again. It was the best decision, because I found myself again. I took back my place in my own life.

Now I live for myself, and I feel at peace. I recognize myself as someone brave who knew how to choose himself.

We have to learn to get out of that loop where it prevails: "Accept me and love me I swear". Everyone must take care of their wounds and know how to choose themselves and not stay where they are not being valued.

We must not let ourselves fall by the rejection of others so that our light never goes out because dignity is not negotiable. I am talking about the inability of the other. And yes, does it hurt to deal with rejection? What do we do? Well, dealing with rejection is not expecting to be accepted, it's being very clear that the opinion of others does not define us.

Janitze 🦋