Christmas is coming and most of my family and friends are out of the country. Definitely, I cannot deny the reality that the migratory phenomenon has altered the family dynamics and structure.

During these last years in my country, which received so many immigrants from other latitudes, became a country with a massive exodus of my people to different parts of the world.

I am writing this post because we are writing a painful part of our history, and from my own feelings because my family is also far away, and somehow these separations have affected the emotional health of both those who leave and those of us who stay.

As I told you in this painful part of this story, where every word, every action is accompanied not only by tears, anger and nostalgia, but also by an attitude of struggle, work, effort and perseverance.

Dealing with what I am feeling

In the course of this year the number of people who decided to emigrate has increased, even with many challenges, many have died in the jungle (Darien or in the Rio Bravo at the border to cross to the USA), entire families that in the midst of haste and often without saying goodbye, today are far from their families.

My country is rich in Christmas traditions, the most important being the family reunion, which is why during these days, personally and like many people around me, we are experiencing sadness, disappointment, nostalgia, anger, lack of acceptance.

Some are even reluctant to celebrate, to not want to decorate the house and not make the expected family dinner because the financial resources in the family make this tradition onerous... Then resilience appears as a vital force in the face of adversity.

A new adventure begins

Even though we are in the final stretch of the year 2022, for me one of the most valuable things is that you seek to fill yourself with spirituality with love and believing from your perspective (your beliefs) put them into practice what is good for your feelings, so you comfort your sadness and increase your strength.

As much as possible do not compare yourself or stay alone with what you did before, how you lived these holidays, invent a new way to celebrate. Life is a gift, you have to leave the drama aside and only let in the joy.

It is enough with the distance of those who left, do not let anger, helplessness, frustration drive them away, do not judge that family member who decided to emigrate, surely he, she or they are also feeling the same as you, it is a very personal and difficult decision.

The best medicine is love, and from LOVE, come closer and talk about your feelings with those who are far away (video calls) any written message of solidarity helps a lot.

Worldwide it is recognized and lived by the natives of each country where we have taken refuge, that in the face of adversity we do not give up, that we see opportunities in the midst of problems and that despite the distance we are always connected to our families, affections and roots.

Are you feeling sad, anxious, lonely, missing someone? What else can you do to make this Christmas better?

Let me know in the comments.