That's enough for today ...

It is a phrase that we must learn to say to ourselves, and that is the first step to recover our energy, and interestingly to be more creative and much more productive, the next day.

Every day it is good to close those open windows in our mind and give us that rest that our body is asking for.

It's not lack of commitment to set personal boundaries, it's mental health.

We tend to be the hardest bosses on ourselves. I say this because we were taught to set boundaries outward, but we rarely do it inward.

In the same way, when we decide to mark a line where there was nothing before, it is natural that those who were used to traveling and abusing in our personal space without permission, feel that discomfort.

To the point that this resistance that those who dare to pass the limits find is expressed in phrases such as: "how have you changed" or "how exaggerated are you","it's that nothing can be said to you anymore, because you take everything the wrong way", by the way, these phrases seek to invalidate our emotion so that we lower our guard, that is, to stop being that person we were who used to sacrifice well-being for not creating conflicts with others.

So if something makes us uncomfortable, it's not a sign that we're doing something wrong; it's confirmation that our boundaries are working.

We must understand that boundaries are not placed to alienate others, but to protect ourselves, and it is deeply liberating to discover who is willing to want to respect us in our new structure.

Let's learn not to apologize for evolving. Because setting limits is the most important act of self-love we can perform, for our mental health. The cost of everyone liking each other can't be losing ourselves.

Definitely, our peace, calm, serenity, tranquility is not negotiable, nor is our well-being selfishness, do you know why? Well, because we are our first priority, and change is a matter of pride, not of loss. And that version of ours is prioritized with firmness, awareness and tenderness.

In addition, we ourselves decide how far our personal space goes, no one else.

Last but not least, when someone tells us that we have become a difficult, and selfish person, he often means that you are no longer moldable to his needs.

That means that your value does not depend on the absolute availability of others. Since setting limits reminds us what behaviors we will not tolerate, this is not a personal attack, by the way.

Friends, I wish success and blessings for everyone, we keep going with a firm foot in the face of life's adversities and opportunities, a hug for everyone ❤️

Janitze 🦋