No one is obligated to anything…

The beautiful thing is that it is born... and if they don't value us or don't thank us, then... That's not it...

To love is not to bind or collect certainties, it is to choose every day to coincide with the freedom of those who decide to stay because in your arms they find their home and not an obligation. How tragic it is when the EGO disguises love as property and we forget that the purest caresses are born of the beauty of sincere desire and not of the mandate. Our couple is not a safe harbor where a man or a woman anchors their comfort by decree, but by universe that crosses our path by pure generosity of fate.

When the I love you stops being an everyday gift to become a cold clause of the contract, the magic turns off and our essence suffocates in the routine, and we begin to keep quiet to avoid conflicts. We walked away so we wouldn't feel hurt. We accept what hurts us for fear of losing. We try to control everything so as not to feel uncertainty again.

Thank you, thank you and thank you... because no one is obliged in his heart to give us anything... everything is a gift.

So share this with gratitude... because even what did not go as we expected or wanted, cannot erase all the good that exists or existed. Even, sometimes we forget that our partner is free, and we think that he belongs to us, as if he were a bicycle that we bought.

What for some is the end, for others is the beginning of the new... but to receive the new, you have to let go of the old.

Sometimes the worst turns out to be the best... except for the one who clings to what he can no longer even grasp... Especially when you take for granted that the other belongs to you, you neglect him and stop thanking what he gives you because you give out of obligation that it should be so.

We are only grateful for what they give us from the heart and not just for fulfilling. If we believe that the other “has a turn”... we kill gratitude... and without gratitude there is no partner, but slavery.

Love is a gift that we give or receive... it is not an obligation, nor can it be requested under threat... it is something that is born... and the demand kills gratitude.
We all have a story, but the others don't have to carry it. Even with all the difficult it can be to turn some things around, we are not condemned by what we have lived through.

Some things will be more difficult than others, but there is one responsibility that we cannot delegate: that of taking charge of what we do with what life gave us. I think that the greatest love is the one that lets us fly, but it is he who always chooses to return to your side.

Janitze 🦋